Khirkeeyaan Episode 6 - Village Girls (Shaina Anand)

Khirkeeyaan Episode 6 - Village Girls

Director: Shaina Anand

Duration: 01:18:25; Aspect Ratio: 1.333:1; Hue: 45.320; Saturation: 0.039; Lightness: 0.549; Volume: 0.289; Cuts per Minute: 0.179; Words per Minute: 199.081

From the project KhirkeeYaan. See: http://chitrakarkhana.net/khirkeyaan.htm
Khirkee Village is a sleepy feudal small world whose historic center of attraction is the stark and stunning Khirkee Masjid. Surrounding the Masjid are curving warrens that lead right into homes with inner courtyards; most belong to Chauhans and Sainis, who still live in large joint families. The lanes are cloistered, on the steps and in the courtyard sit women with their ghungats poised on their heads.

On the main road side of village was Shyama Beauty Parlour, whose owner Renu readily agreed to participate. We found an STD (phone) booth run by a lady, Indu. She agreed in principal and said she would inform her husband and confirm the following evening. We already had our third participant, Suddha, a kaamwali (maid) who had been introduced to us by Anusha Lal, a dancer who had her studio near Khoj. "Suddha is a firebrand and a muh phat, smart mouth." The 3rd TV was to be in her rented room, near the Masjid.
The search for the feudal family took some knocking on doors. Most women welcomed us, but said that we would have to seek permission from their husbands or the patriarch. When we entered Seema's house, it immediately felt like a different place. The paanch bahuraniyan (5 daughters- in-law), welcomed us instantly. Seema said they have been trying to bring some sort of awakening in the village. "We would love to do this, and we will also bring other women to watch and talk."
The idea was to 'stage' an event. To bring into this cloistered community, an element from the outside. Next morning, we were set up by 11:30. And into the parlour walked artist Anita Dube for a much-needed wax.

Renu - Namaste!
Seema - Namaste Namaste! Yes, greetings to you! All is good!
Indu - Namaste! Hello!
audio
booth
fine
good
manager
namaste
pass
phone
s.t.d
sound
beautician
daughter-in-law
greet
meet
Near Khirkee Masjid, Khirkee village, Delhi
art
cctv
community media
conversation
customer
daughter-in-law
discuss
education
freedom
gather
girl
gossip
group
housemaid
housewife
housework
inquire
issue
job
joint-family
khirkee
labour
lifestyle
livelihood
medium
meet
method
occupation
organization
parlor
social
society
story
support
television
time
together
tv
village
woman
work
working

Renu - is the sound not coming through?
Seema - is it coming now?
Indu - is it coming now?
Renu - huh?
Indu - it is coming, right?
Renu - (laughing)I was saying, (I should) at least meet someone!

(Laughing)

Seema - who is this?
Renu - OK...
Seema - Renu Didi (sister), hello!
Renu - I was saying, (I have) met our people through this!
Seema - OK, see! We have met after long through this, right?
Renu - yes, yes!
hello
long
medium
people
see
didi
inquire
sister

Lady -hello?
Renu - yes?
Lady - see Manju Didi (sister) has also come!
Renu - oye! ....(laughs)
Lady - talk with her too!
come
drink
eat
rain
ruin
talk
wedding
work
fat
overweight
parlor
speak

Renu - look it is Manju!
Lady - yes! Take, talk to her!
Renu- oh brother! How are you doing?

Manju - don't you have work today in the parlor?
Renu - have you grown fatter from all the eating and drinking in Bhagwan Das's wedding?
Manju - what eating and drinking? These rains have ruined all the work!

Manju - ....you spoke about becoming fat... a person is bound to put on weight thanks to all the facilities in that houses, now, have. First while making a chutney the hands would get exercise from grinding all the ingredients on the grinding stone.
button
chutney
done
exercise
facility
finish
grind
hand
hard-work
ingredients
minute
mixer-grinder
mixy
press
reason
second
stone
artist
customer
house
person
time

Anita - ....right, you are absolutely right!
Manju - ...but now with a 'mixy' (a mixer-grinder), it can be made with two minutes, in fact it is ready in a second....press the button and it done! And when a person does not do hard work, he is bound to put on more weight!

Manju - there are maids in every house. Morning or in the evening, at least once, if a person cleans the house,.....
Anita - yes...
Manju - .... then there would be no question of that person putting on weight!
Anita - definitely!
clean
day
evening
housemaid
maid
morning

Anita - no, you are absolutely right. But with that a thought comes to my mind, which is, on one hand, because of all these (facilities) a woman has received some form of freedom...
correct
facility
freedom
mind
receive
right
thought
woman

Anita- because, I remember, when my grandmother was still here, all the time, in the morning the kitchen work would begin, but by night she would be so tired, why? Because all her time and energy, her emotional energy, would be spent in looking after the house.
begin
care
emotional
energy
grandmother
kitchen
morning
night
remember
start
tired
house
spend
time

Manju - but it shouldn't be that all the time must be spent in the house doing work...
Anita- yeah! Definitely.
Manju - that would be too much, right?
achieve
feel
free
freedom
get
help
hour
inquire
level
machine
minute
mixer-grinder
mixy
presence
ten
understand
woman
daughter-in-law
definitely
work

Anita- on one level I totally feel that the presence of any machine, like the 'mixy'(a mixer-grinder) or any other, has helped woman to achieve freedom, as work that would otherwise take 10 hours gets done in a minute. However, on getting this freedom, she cannot figure out what to do with her free time!

Manju - 'what to do' is a thought that would only go through the mind of only a housewife who remains at home.
Anita - definitely...
agree
benefit
earn
good
home
jiffy
job
leave
livelihood
mind
quickly
thought
women
housewife

Manju - but for the working women, it is very beneficial. For them it is good that their work gets done in a jiffy so that they can quickly leave for their jobs.
So for them it is really good.
Anita - yes...

Renu - Bhabhi (sister in law), take the microphone higher...
Anita - but, but the question that gets raised, is that, what should the housewives, who have a lot of free time, do with it?
beautician
bhabhi
high
mic
microphone
question
sister-in-law
free
time

Anita - and what has happened is that, all this free time, women spend it on worthless....not worthless as such but constantly on beauty , or the serials on TV, what I mean to say is that, they sort of become slaves to such. They get freedom from one to become a slave of the other.
beauty
constant
freedom
slave
spend
transform
tv
worthless
serial
television
woman

the women belong to the upper caste Chauhan.

Seema - No you are absolutely right about this. In my opinion, the women, educated or under-educated, are so engrossed in the (T.V.) serials that they prefer to think more about the serials than their families. Isn't that right?
Anita - Yes...
Indu- That is very true...
booth
correct
educated
engross
illiterate
manager
phone
prefer
true
under-educated
daughter-in-law
family
opinion

Seema- What is Tulsi doing, what is happening in her family, this (discussion) happens.
Anita -yes.
agree
copy
discuss
emulate
feel
game
impact
k-serial
life
smriti irani
tulsi
wrong
tv

Seema - and in my opinion these serial have such a huge impact on these women, that they begin to feel these in their lives. they try to emulate the games (in serials) on TV into their family and into their lives, which according to me is wrong.

Seema - so my opinion, not only mine, most of our opinion is that these women should watch TV as little as possible, watch it, but there are better things to watch, like there is the Discovery channel, there are news channels. and as they tend to have a lot of free time, they can use it to do many other things. isn't that right?
Anita - definitely
Seema - but then again, we live in a village....
avoid
better
channel
discovery
free
many
news
possible
right
time
village
watch

Seema - yes we are educated, but the environment in which we are living, it becomes difficult to be self-dependent and do something. right?
Anita - yes...
correct
difficult
earn
educated
environment
freedom
independent
job
live
livelihood
self-dependent

Seema - So for this, for a person to come forward...
Anita - Yes..
Seema - To make some sort of an organization, a club, for ladies, through which a group can be formed. it is very important to make this group. But to make that, it is always so that one person has to act first.
Anita - yes...
act
action
club
come
first
form
forward
important
lady
organization
person
group

Seema- after the formation of the group, what happens is that we have a lot of....every woman in her mind knows where she is going wrong, what all good she can do...there are a lot of points which unfortunately, remain as thoughts in her mind.
formation
good
knowledge
point
thought
unfortunate
wrong
mind
remain
woman

Anita - but why? as in this is a specialty of our society, that what whatever is in a woman's mind, it remains stuck there. it is never...(laughs)
Seema- yes...
Anita - huh?
Seema - definitely...
Anita - then that is a very sad situation...
artist
customer
definitely
parlor
sad
situation
society
specialty
stuck

Seema- yes.. but that is why we want that in some way, women do come out.
agree
free
solution
way

Anita - OK, now one more thing, through this camera i can see more people... you, the lady in the red sari, the red and white sari, what is your name?
Sudha- mine?
Anita - yes...(laughs)
Sudha - my name is Sudha.
camera
color
housemaid
inquire
look
name
people
red
sari
see
white
artist
customer
parlor

Anita - now you, you say something...now you talk about something.
encourage
request
discuss
express
opinion
say
speak
talk
topic

Sudha - what should i say?
Anita - eh? ....(your opinion) about all these things...
thing
housemaid

Sudha - I'm a housemaid, you know that...
Anita - huh?
Sudha - I'm a housemaid and you know that...
introduction
knowledge
earn
job
laborer
livelihood
occupation

all
bad
call
daughter-in-law
definition
fit
fittest
good
healthy
Manju - but being a housemaid is not a bad thing...
Anita - that is a very good thing. That is why you look the fittest among all those present, I'm telling you. it is a very good thing.
Sudha - yes yes...
Anita - more than the others, you know, you are, what people call fit....
people

Anita - very...this is.... and? ....(laughs)
laughter

Sudha - it is very good...
Anita - huh?
Sudha - I go out to work, I work, I come back at home, we cook, eat, together, I like it a lot.
Anita - you like it a lot right?
Sudha - a lot!
back
come
cook
correct
earn
eat
good
home
inquire
job
laborer
like
livelihood
lot
occupation
together
work
housemaid

Anita - when a woman is able to stand on her own feet, the sensation of that is out of the world.
Sudha - definitely
Anita - isn't it something different?
Sudha - yes definitely...
Anita - Why? Why?...
definitely
extraordinary
feel
feet
independent
sensation
something
stand
woman
world

Indu - you see, in the TV, there are two wives...there is no man (character) on TV who wont have two wives.
character
two
booth
man
manager
phone
polygamy
serial
television
wife

Anita - he shouldn't have two wives?
Indu all of them have two wives.
Anita - in reality or in serials?
Indu - in serials...
reality
artist
customer
parlor

Anita - why?
Indu - I don't know why...
(Laughter)
Anita- this means.. (laughs)....so what happens in real life?
dialing
happen
inquiry
know
laughter
life
real
s.t.d
subscriber
trunk

Indu - one cant see the reality in this.
Anita - so this means that, men are being told, through serials, that 'you have a chance, to keep one here and one there....
chance
keep
man
medium
polygamy
reality
see
serial
told
unable
wife

Indu -this is, what is being taught!
Anita - then tell us...then someone has to oppose this , or this matter will become worse and it will be a big problem!
Sudha - yes, yes!
agree
big
matter
oppose
problem
someone
turn
worse
housemaid

Anita - if you come ahead, then we could....
Sudha - Auntie-ji, this drama of serials which show two wives....
Manju - but such things never happen.
Anita - huh?
able
ahead
auntie
come
disagree
forward
never
daughter-in-law
drama
polygamy
serial
two
wife

Manju - these serials....
Sudha - this drama is generally made to show the reality. People really keep two wives!
people
real
reality
show
keep
man

Anita- you are absolutely right. I, totally ....
Sudha - the serials made, might be fake, but men do tend to keep two wives, and they hide this, they don't obviously tell!
absolutely
accept
correct
fake
hide
made
obviously
produce
right
say
tell
totally
agree
artist
customer
parlor

Anita - people feel that these things that are shown are very nice, and they should really happen..
Indu - yes, that's there...
Manju- no, for the wives it might be different
case
different
feel
nice
people
s.t.d
shown
situation
things
booth
daughter-in-law
manager
phone

Anita - (laughs)...
Manju - one woman, how many times can she possibly marry?
Indu - yes, that's also there...
Anita - see...
polygamy
inquire
marry
number
possibility
possible
time

Manju - one woman, how many times can she possibly marry? It is being show in serials like Kasauti...
k-serial
serial
shown
woman

Anita - you see, what happens is, see... now this is something that is concerning me...right?
about
concern
hear
hope
knowledge
life
listening
married
past
people
tell
together
artist
customer
parlor
personal
speak

Manju - you see, we don't really know about your life...if you are saying it is about you then...
Anita - no but I'm telling you...now that we are together, I'm hoping there are no other people listening to me...

Manju - yes, tell us...
Anita - I will tell you...i was married a long time ago.

Anita - but within my husband and me, because of some problems... but, let me tell you, there is still a lot of love between us... sometimes we also do talk on the phone, but something happened, because of which, the relationship broke in such a way that it can never be the same again.
between
break
husband
love
never
phone
problem
reason
relationship
same
talk
us
end

Anita - OK? But it is not like my life came to an end there. If I want, I can allow it to end there. As the society believes that if there is no man with a woman, then the woman cannot really have a life
allow
belief
man
real
society
unable
want
wish
woman
life

Anita - that would be very bad, because I work. I make things and exhibit them. Now on the 1st I will leave for Paris. And that is why I have come here to actually get my waxing done. So it it not that my life is not happy.
bad
earn
exhibit
job
leave
livelihood
occupation
paris
produce
thing
travel
waxing
work
happy

Anita- so the society thinks that a woman without a man can never be happy. And this image has been created (in the minds of people). But it is not like that. We have so many friends, we have brothers, mother, we have a whole family!
brother
create
family
friend
image
man
mind
mother
people
society
think
unable
untrue
without
woman

Seema- no, no, you are absolutely right. What Didi (sister) is trying to say is that why is a woman shown getting married again and again (in serials), can she not survive without marriage? Does she not have a life beyond marriage?
absolutely
beyond
correct
life
marry
polygamy
right
serial
survive
tell
daughter-in-law
didi
explain
say
shown
sister
speak
try

Seema - I mean, what Didi (sister) is trying to say is that what is being shown is very bad.
Anita- no, in fact, I feel, what is shown through media and on TV is only a way to mislead the women.
bad
meaning
media
mislead
opinion
way
artist
customer
parlor
television
tv

Anita - it is never shown (on TV) that a woman is not getting married so many times or that she is with someone else, has another partner. Basically, people do have needs....
Seema - yes...
Anita - isn't that right?
Seema - yes, yes....
agree
correct
different
marry
need
never
partner
people
polygamy
right

Anita - but everything is shown in a negative way, that such a woman is of a bad character, or she has some sort of a problem, or she is someone (a vamp) who plans bad strategies...
bad
character
negative
plan
problem
strategy
vamp
way
serial
woman

Anita - it is never shown that she is a good woman, a human being, someone with needs just like like any man or her brother or mother, or any other person, and someone who can very well stand on her own.
being
brother
feet
good
human
independent
man
mother
needs
own
person
stand

Manju - this Ekta Kapoor who has made so many serials, is herself a woman, a female, why does she always have to show women as cheap characters?
Sudha - Auntie-ji is talking.....
auntie
character
cheap
ekta kapoor
female
produce
speak
talk
television
daughter-in-law
housemaid
inquire
make

Sudha - (garble)
Manju - Why is a woman , in every way, turned into an issue? Women are dragged to the level of dirt, they are said to be wearing a particular type of clothes or not wearing such clothes...Why? These people have turned women into a big joke.
big
clothes
dirt
drag
issue
joke
level
turn
way
wear

Seema - you, the one at the STD....what is your name?
Indu - (it is ) Indu...
answer
name
booth
manager
phone
s.t.d

Seema - Indu?...
Indu - yes...
Seema - OK, Indu, do you manage the STD?
Indu - No, I don't manage it alone.
Seema - OK, then who is with you?
Indu - My husband manages and so do I...
alone
husband
together
earn
job
livelihood
occupation
work

Seema - OK, OK, so you also manage it...
Indu - yes, when he goes to (work at) his office, I sit here. Sometimes my children also sit here. And?
children
manage
office
sit

Seema - so right now are you there alone or there are people around you?
Indu - there are some men who want to make phone calls...
alone
around
better
call
clear
gully
house
lady
lane
main
man
people
road
see
unclear
understand
woman
s.t.d

Seema - OK, so there no other ladies there?
Indu - if there would have been some ladies around, it would have been so much better.

Seema - OK, so where exactly is your STD?
Indu - Its right in the front...at the main road....it is here in the gully(lane)...
Seema - OK, OK, this...OK, fine..

Indu - It is near you (your house).
Seema- OK, fine, I understood...i couldn't clearly see who you were...

Indu - I see all the Didi-log (sisters) sitting here....
Seema - OK, OK...
Renu - She is the one who manages that STD in front of me.
Seema - Oh! OK, OK!
didi
front
opposite
sister
sit
beautician
manage
parlor

Renu - so how does it feel to be managing the place with your husband? Working with him, helping him in his work...you are feeling good right?
Seema - yes, yes, definitely, helping your husband...it is a very good thing
correct
definitely
earn
feel
good
help
husband
job
livelihood
occupation
place
right
thing
together
work

Renu - it (life) is not just limited to doing the kitchen work.
Indu - within ourselves......see, there has to be a combination of naram(soft) and garam(hot) (opposites)
Renu - isn't it?
combination
garam
hot
naram
opposite
soft
booth
kitchen
life
limit
manager
phone

Renu - it (life) is not just limited to doing the kitchen work. You also work there, so it feels good right?
Indu - yes...
agree
bad-mouth
clean
clothes
earn
engross
feel
good
housework
husband
job
livelihood
man
occupation
s.t.d
serial
share
stuck
utensil
wash
woman
inquire

Renu - and if a woman is always stuck to doing all the kitchen work, the washing of clothes, utensils, cleaning of the house, then she tends to be always engrossed in serials, and in bad-mouthing others...

Indu - no see, my husband is a very good man. He always shares his work with me.

Seema- Sudha, who is that sitting behind you? Let us talk to her too.
Sudha- she is my landlady.
behind
housemaid
sit
speak
talk
daughter-in-law
landlady

Seema - OK let us talk to her too.
Indu - let us talk to her too....come..

Chandrakala - Hello?
Seema - yes, Namaste Didi (sister), did you recognize us?

didi
earlier
knowledge
meet
namaste
problem
recognize
sister
time
upfront

Chandrakala - well, I have never met you, but now that I have met you upfront, I know...
Seema - OK..

Chandrakala- if I would have met you earlier maybe...
Seema- It's OK, not a problem, now that you know us, please do recognize us the next time we meet... OK.

Seema - Didi, where exactly is your house?
Sudha - it is where she is sitting right now and talking to you, this is her house.
bazaar
house
housemaid
now
road
side
sit
speak
talk

Chandrakala- it is here, at the side of the road, near Som bazaar.
Seema - OK OK so, your house is on the outer side of it.
Chandrakala - yes, yes it is right there.

Seema - OK, auntie I will ask you, do you watch serials?
Landlady - not really. I am not quite interested in them. I'm always busy with the children. My grandchildren are in the house. I'm always busy with work, I hardly watch them.
ask
busy
children
grandchildren
hardly
housework
serial
television
uninterested
watch
work
auntie

Seema- OK, auntie now tell me, this village of ours...are you a Chauhan?
Chandrakala- yes I'm a Chauhan.

agree
caste
chauhan
community
freedom
lot
opinion
village
woman

Seema - aren't you... so now, this village of ours, according to you, women here have how much freedom?
Chandrakala- how much freedom? Women here have a lot of freedom.
Seema- a lot?
Chandrakala- Then what?!

Seema - In what way?
Chandrakala - In a way, that they do what they feel like, if their men say anything they don't even listen.
ignore
laughter
listen
thing
happy
man

Seema - OK, OK...(laughter)
Chandrakala - they are happy doing their own thing!

Chandrakala - they tell their men, you be happy, and let us be happy too.
Seema - OK.
daughter
tell

Seema- OK the second thing is we are living in a village. You and us, we are all daughters in law of this village.
Chandrakala- yes, I am.
agree
allow
elder
feel
freedom
junior
live
opinion
second
senior
thing
village
woman
daughter-in-law
independent
permission

Seema - you are elder to us, you are quite senior to us and we are junior to you. But we feel that though there is quite a bit of freedom (for women) here, but we are still not allowed to do a lot of things on our own.

Chandrakala- Can't do on our own, as in?
Seema - yes, as in, the permission of the family is very important. Which is OK to some extent. It is also necessary at times.
Chandrakala- yes, it is OK.
Seema - Isn't it?
extent
family
inquire
limit
meaning
necessary

Seema- now what happens in our village, and you must be feeling the same, is that, everyone, how earlier people used to live with love, live together, it is not the same now.
earlier
everyone
live
love
past
people
same
together
village
feel
present

Chandrakala - well. It is does not happen now. you see, mistakes happen from both the sides, we do feel guilty also about it. If the daughters in law are treated like the daughters of the house and explained things, then there will not really be any problems, any ego issues. There will also be no mistakes, mostly.
daughter
ego
explain
guilty
house
issue
mistake
problem
side
treat
landlady

Seema- no, as in, in this village of ours. Earlier, everyone would get together to celebrate festivals.
Chandrakala - yes, yes, we used to do them together...
agree
celebrate
everyone
past
village
come
festival
together

Seema- but now when a festival day comes, one does not really come to know about it as it seem to just come and go. Because, we don't meet each other. When do we really meet? Either in weddings or if there is some sort of ladies sangeet(a pre-wedding ceremony) , only then.
before
ceremony
go
lady
sangeet
surprise
unable
unaware
wedding
meet

Chandrakala- yes, you are right, because, now a days, the environment is such that, to meet, nobody...
Seema- yes, yes.....no....
Chandrakala - as, when we meet.....
Anita - I...I too want to be
correct
environment
nobody
present
right
today
artist
customer
landlady
parlor

Anita- I too want to be included in this.
Seema - yes. Yes. Yes., definitely.
Chandrakala - you want to be included....
definitely
expectation
include
want
wish

Anita - no, what has happened is, earlier, there was so much love, because, those(festivals) were a few of the occasions...
Seema - yes...
Anita - ...during which people would come together.
activity
come
dependent
entertainment
festival
love
occasion
relate
religion
social
together
explain
people

Seema - yes...
Anita - So that used to be the entertainment. Also it was related to religion as well.

Anita - so all the social activities were dependent on these occasions.

Anita - what has happened now is that, there is TV in the house. Outside there is cinema to go and watch. So now there are so many different ways for people to entertain themselves. Or something....so now they have started meeting other people and the ... what is called boundary of the society, this boundary has become bigger and has further spread all over.
auditorium
begin
big
boundary
cinema
different
enlarge
entertain
everywhere
expand
film
house
meet
outside
socialize
society
spread
start
television
tv
watch
way

Anita - so in a way, we have gained somethings, and have lost some.
Seema - yes. Definitely....
Anita - so basically, there are certain things which are good and bad about it.
Seema - definitely.
bad
definitely
gain
good
lose
something
daughter-in-law

Seema - but we, today's daughters in law, feel that, we should be meeting everyone, know everyone from the village, start talking with all the ladies.
begin
everyone
feel
lady
meet
present
speak
start
talk
want
village

Anita - yes...
Seema - because we feel that, a lot of things, we can do, by taking some time, out of the free time we get after doing the housework. Like we wish to do some social work, or do something for the development of our village.
ability
development
free
housework
lot
parlor
remove
social
thing
wish
work
artist
customer
time

Anita- you said something brilliant some time back, something about forming a group.
Seema - yes, yes...
brilliant
come
enter
family
field
form
girl
group
help
person
sport
suppress
talent
want
quality
together
woman

Anita - if women get together, and help each other, like, if anyone has some sort of a talent, say a girl wants to get into sports or in some other field, then this group can help bring out those qualities in that person, which otherwise as you said, would be suppressed by her family.

Anita - So if the women are together, with the support of each other, they would be able to bring out those special qualities in themselves and be happy.
ability
able
happy
parlor
special
support

Anita - so I quite liked that point you made about forming a group.
Seema - by the way, ma'am, we are trying to form a group, something like a club for ladies.
club
form
group
lady
like
point
daughter-in-law

Seema - but what happens here is that, we are the five women of our family. Here. So we are all together.
explain
five
number
together
woman
family

Seema - our family members also support us. Ours is a very good family, an educated family.
educated
good
member
praise
support

Seema - it is a very supporting family.
Shaina - Indu Didi(sister), you also listen to what she is saying...
didi
sister
booth
listen
manager
phone
say
speak

Indu - yes yes I'm listening...
Shaina -...to what Seema is saying, listen...
Indu - I'm listening, I'm listening.

Indu - yes...please speak...
Seema - yes, that is why I wish that, everyone supports us. All of who are listening to us, please, all support us. And whenever we offer a hand to them to move forward, I request them to please be with us.
all
everyone
hand
offer
please
request
wish

Indu - yes, OK. I will definitely come.
Chanrakala - OK, I too will come. I will bring both my daughters in law.
agree
bring
come
definitely
didi
s.t.d
sister
landlady
recognize

Seema - Didi (sister) I have recognized you...
Chanrakala - yes I have recognized you too.
Seema - you have right?
Chanrakala - yes...

Seema - she too is from our family...
Chanrakala - she is from our family, our younger daughter in law.
family
younger

Seema - yes, now we have recognized each other.
Chanrakala - I am her elder sister in law...
bad
elder
good
sister-in-law
situation
thing
artist
customer
parlor
speak
talk

Anita - because, because, we always talk about each others good things, but whatever situation that we might be in, there are some bad things as well.

Seema - you are absolutely right ma'am.
Anita - right? So there should be some sort of a platform, something with the help of this group....for example, today, all of us are talking. So there should be a place where we can criticize all the negative points, so as to lighten the anger in our hearts, or just share problems with someone.
absolutely
anger
correct
criticize
example
group
heart
lighten
negativity
platform
point
present
problem
say
share
someone
today
help

Anita - where, one could find self satisfaction. And one cant sometimes find satisfaction alone, and people are required to help in case I don't understand certain things, and if you help me, my dilemma could be solved.
dilemma
find
get
people
require
satisfaction
self-satisfaction
solve
thing
unable
understand
alone

Anita - so this is something worth thinking about, for otherwise a woman is lonely.
Seema - yes, yes, definitely, like now...
Anita - like you just said right, that your family is good, but what happens to those who don't have nice families?
definitely
good
inquire
lonely
nice
other
think
woman
worth
daughter-in-law
family

Seema - so that is why we wish that they explain matters to their families, we want them to develop that courage within themselves to come forward.
explain
matter
want
wish
come
courage
develop
forward

Anita - yes definitely....
Seema - a woman can develop within herself the courage to come forward.
definitely
within
artist
customer
parlor
woman

Seema - because in our families, as far as we know, that if we wish to do anything, for example, I run an institute, where during the summer vacations I take classes for children, where ladies also come. there are girls, little children, even boys come. Children of all age come there. And that is why I know most of the people from the village.....
Anita - OK...
Seema - I know the women.
age
boy
children
earn
explain
family
girl
institute
know
lady
livelihood
manage
opinion
people
recognize
run
summer
vacation
wish
work
class
permission

Seema - so there are many women, who want to take up a stitching course. So they come, inquire about it, OK, then they go and don't return even after two days, why? Because their mothers in law don't give permission to learn.
allow
course
day
mother-in-law
return
stitching
time
inquire
learn

Seema - they cant manage to take permission to even to learn, how will they manage to permission for any other in the future?
Anita -say, what can be done.....
acquire
artist
customer
do
done
future
manage
parlor
take

Seema - even when our village, according to me, is educated. As far as I understand, there are educated people in the whole village.
entire
opinion
understand
educated
people
village

Seema - but in spite of being educated they are so backward, that with them you cant even talk.
backward
say
talk
unable

Indu - very true...
Anita - you tell us, why is the condition like this?
agree
booth
manager
phone
s.t.d
true
truth
artist
condition
customer
inquire
parlor
situation

Shaina - one minute...
Anita - how do we understand this? Why is it like this?
minute
time
understand

Seema - according to me...
Shaina - Seema didi (sister), I want...sorry.. may I say something quickly?
Anita - you? I didn't recognize you...
apologies
daughter-in-law
fast
opinion
quickly
recognize
say
sorry
speak
talk
unable
didi
sister

Shaina - Didi(sister), who are you? Are you a resident of Khirkee?
Anita - I'm Anita.
inquire
resident
introduction
khirkee

Renu - that is Shaina who you are talking to...
Shaina- OK. Are you from Khirkee?
come
discussion
engross
ignore
look
please
see
speak
talk
waxing
beautician

Anita - no I had just come to get my waxing done. But see that has been left ignored as we are all engrossed in talking.
Shaina - then you please get your waxing done while you talk to us.

Shaina - Renu I hope your work is not stalled because of all this?
Renu - no no no...
hope
reason
stall
stop
work

Shaina - OK, I'm Shaina and we are doing a project in Khirkee..
Anita - OK...
introduction
artist
customer
khirkee
project

Shaina - I don't think you know about it, but the others do know what we are doing here.
Anita - OK
know
knowledge
village
work

Shaina - but what you just said about Seema, yesterday when we were going door to door, to ask people if we could, with the use of this medium , connect four women or four families.
allow
connect
daughter-in-law
day
door
door-to-door
four
household
medium
number
people
permission
request
say
speak
talk
time
use
woman
yesterday
family

Shaina - But Seema's house was the only house...Seema Didi(sister) and Shalini, they all welcomed us and said to us, ' You start your work, we will call our friends as well, because we feel this is important....this has to be done.'
begin
call
didi
feel
friend
important
said
sister
start
tell
welcome
house
work

Shaina - but when we went to different houses, all the women were..they were all sitting with a ghoonghat (head and face -covering) and the only answer that we got was, 'we don't know, when our husbands come home from work, you ask them.'
answer
ask
back
come
covering
different
earn
face
ghooghat
go
head
husband
job
know
livelihood
occupation
permission
return
sit
went
woman

Shaina - so when you say, that you want to start a club, it will be a bit difficult.
Seema - yes definitely..
agree
being
club
daughter-in-law
definitely
difficult
little
say
start
tell
speak

Shaina - but, what is happening right now all you women....are a part of the good things, that , your name is Anita right?
Anita - yes, my name is Anita
Shaina - Anita earlier spoke about...
artist
confirmation
customer
good
parlor
part
spoke
thing
woman

Shaina - so, all these problems that exist, like yesterday you were telling me that you people have taken the ghoonghat(head and face -covering) off...
Seema - yes
agree
begin
covering
day
exist
face
family
ghoonghat
head
importantly
inquire
khirkee
necessary
need
people
place
problem
remove
tell
time
village
yesterday
daughter-in-law
husband
support

Shaina - so...how is that to be done? Within Khirkee. Let us take this place to begin with.

Seema - no it is such that, till there is no support of the family, most importantly, the support of the husband. Firstly, for a woman, the support of her husband is very important.

Seema - till a woman does not get help from her husband, she cant do anything, according to me.
help
inability
opinion
unable
without

Seema - how to get her husband to agree with her, a woman knows that very well.
agree
know
knowledge
way
well

Seema - you and I both know that only a woman can convince her husband.
able
convince
only

Seema - If your husband is on your side, then all the members of the family are on your side.
Anita - definitely..
artist
customer
definitely
family
member
parlor
wife
side
support

Seema -OK? And even if they don't, at least your husband is on your side.
refuse

Seema - and so your can step forward in any way possible.
ability
able
forward
possible
step
way

Seema - second thing is that, one family to the other is the only way to awaken the masses for any work. Right?
awaken
chain
correct
family
mass
medium
second
spread
thing
work

Seema - now in case of Renu. Renu I would like to talk to you...
Renu - yes, tell me.
like
speak
talk
tell
want
wish
beautician
parlor

Seema - now Renu, see, you know my family very well.
Renu - yes
correct
family
know
opinion
properly
recognize
well
agree
freedom
woman

Seema - right? And you know other families as well.
Renu - yes..
Seema - so what do you think? Do the women of our family have freedom?

Renu - no, it is your family only, from the entire village, where people have some form of freedom.
complete
entire
people
type
village

Seema - there is freedom right?
Renu - yes...
Seema - there are other families as well, that we know of, who have the freedom to wear good clothes, eat good food, to go out, but they....
definitely
eat
roam
unable
work
clothes
daughter-in-law
family
food
good
permission
wear

Renu - no, they definitely have freedom to wear good clothes, to eat to roam, but to do anything else....
Seema - yes they don't have freedom to do anything else.

Seema - here we have nice rich families, but they can only feed their daughters in law good food, let them wear good clothes, but they don't give them freedom.
Renu - yes, yes...
feed
nice
rich

Seema- so, this wearing good clothes and eating good things according to me are not so important, as compared to, freedom for a woman.
Renu - yes, as freedom...
compare
eat
opinion
things
unimportant
woman

Renu - freedom, in the sense does not mean that you go and roam wherever you want, don't cook at home, everyday bring food from outside, this is not freedom. But the desire in a woman's heart to do something, that desire to work, that wish, every human being has that wish, that I should do this, I should be doing that...everyone has not got the freedom to fulfill those wishes.
avoid
being
cook
earn
everyone
fulfill
home
human
independent
job
mean
meaning
occupation
order
outside
permission
roam
unable
work
beautician
desire
heart
parlor
wish

Renu - so that person's wish and desire just remains in her heart. Isn't it?
inquire
person
remain

Renu- if one can't awaken one other person, then everyone should get together
Manju - if everyone gets together...
awaken
begin
come
day
forward
future
get
hope
slowly
together
unable
village
daughter-in-law
start

Renu - and slowly, the way in which that one person had started, slowly everyone comes forward, and then, I hope, that one day, the whole village will be together.

Renu - but in the beginning, it will be a little...
Daughter in law - no, in the beginning it is always a bit difficult
Renu - it is definitely difficult...
agree
beginning
definitely
difficult
hard-work
important
little
woman
work

Daughter in law - to start any work, hard work is very important...
Renu -hard work is definitely important.

Renu - confidence and will power should both be there because...
Daughter in law - because, one has to listen to everyone, and yet to continue the work that you are doing....
Renu - yes...along with listening to all the good that people say about us, we should have the courage to be able to listen to the bad things also.
bad
confidence
continue
courage
good
listen everyone
people
power
things

Daughter in law - like, there should be vocational training centers in the village for elder women so that through it they get knowledge enough to understand that they have daughters in law whom they need to send out of the house.
center
educate
elder
house
knowledge
out
plan
send
training
understand
village
vocational

Daughter in law - so that they can be brought to a level where they can, on their own, begin to work.
begin
ear
independent
job
level
livelihood
occupation
start
work

Daughter in law - they should have confidence within themselves, that is very necessary.
necessary
self
within
confidence
important

Renu - thats there.
Daughter in law - because without confidence there is nothing. And till they get out of their houses, how will they get to know what is happening in the world, and how will they make sure their children are well educated? It is important to have all this.
children
confirm
educate
education
explain
house
inability
know
knowledge
out
step
world
agree
beautician
parlor

Indu - that is very true. You said a very correct thing.
Seema- well, according to me, the park that we have in this village, you will find all women there right? They are all there. But, have you ever gone there and closely observed those women? Have you noticed what is the topics of their conversations?
Renu - topics, yes..
booth
correct
everyone
find
inquire
manager
observe
opinion
park
phone
s.t.d
thing
true
village
conversation
discussion
topic
woman

Seema - only, bad mouthing their daughters in law, what they are doing , where they go, what they are eating and what they are wearing. Only these things are their topics of discussion
bad-mouth
discuss
drink
eat
mother-in-law
speak
talk
wear

Seema - isn't it?
Renu - yes...
Seema - these things are brought into discussion.
agree
dauther-in-law
booth
inquire
manager
phone
s.t.d

Renu - but all these....
Seema - so...
Renu - yes, tell me...
Seema - I feel that, like, there I Didi (sister)...um, Didi what is your name?
Indu - whose name?
Renu - this one? Are you referring to her?
Seema- no, this, the lower one...
landlady - are you talking to me?
Seema - yes, yes...Didi - what is your name, I cant recall I...
landlady -my name is Chandrakala
Seema - OK...
beautician
inability
name
parlor
point
recall
refer
talk
unable
daughter-in-law
didi
landlady
sister
speak

Seema - OK, Chanda Didi(sister)....may I call you Chanda?
Chandrakala - Yes, call me anything , now that we will be talking to each other.
Seema- OK...Chanda Didi what I wanted to ask you is, you have two daughters in law right?
Chandrakala- yes, yes....
Seema - OK...
agree
call
correct
grant
permission
right
want
wish

Seema - I have never seen your daughters in law outside.
Chandrakala- OK....
complain
outside
see
notice

Chandrakala - OK... but now that you are making this plan, then I will be sending them out!
Seema - I have never seen them, whereas...
clothing
covering
everyone
exit
face
ghoonghat
head
house
inappropriate
make
out
permission
plan
seen
send
speak
step
stop
talk
village
wear
feel

Chandrakala - I will not be stopping them now....
Seema - whereas, when it comes to us, everyone from the village talks about us saying that we wear anything and that we just step out of house without ever taking a ghoonghat(head and face -covering), as in we do what we feel like.

Seema - but we don't really feel the difference, and it is not a big deal, as no one in our family says anything to us...we are fine just the way we are.
accept
alright
difference
family
fine

Seema - Didi, I want one thing from you and that is , whenever we step out to do any work for the society, please be on our side.
Chandrakala - OK...i will definitely be on your side....
didi
expect
out
request
sister
society
step
support
want
work
agree
definitely
landlady

Seema - OK...
Chandrakala - and I will be, among all of you, as an elder.
Seema- yes, definitely, you will be ahead of all of us.
ahead
among
elder

Seema - see now there is one thing, we are all sitting here, and all of us are from the village, and in my family's and in my mind, there is a thought that has been disturbing us for quite some time now. About the wedding that took place in our village recently....
Indu - yes...
all
disturbing
everyone
family
marriage
mind
s.t.d
sit
thought
time
booth
manager
phone
recent
village
wedding

Seema - you all know about what happened in our village right?
Indu - yes yes, we know...
Seema - I don't know....her name....
Manju - Kamlesh
Seema - Kamlesh Didi(sister)?
didi
feel
inquire
know
knowledge
name
sister
speak
talk
express
housewife
opinion
woman

Indu - yes, speak please...
Kamlesh - yes?
Seema - the wedding that recently took place here...
Kamlesh - yes?
Seema - what do u feel, how was it?

Kamlesh - it was a great wedding....
great

Seema - it was great? You think weddings should be like that?
Kamlesh - they should be....
Seema - they should be?
Kamlesh - they shouldn't be....
Seema - they shouldn't be like that right?
Renu - yes...they shouldn't be like that
beautician
inquire
parlor
question
agree
daughter-in-law

Chandrakala - hello, hello, I want to say something...see, not everyone can do something like that, only whoever can do it, will do it. ...
Seema - yes, yes....
Chandrakala - the one who doesn't have, will do it according to his convenience...
Seema - yes...
ability
afford
convenience
everyone
explain
say
speak
talk
unable
want
landlady

Chandrakala - this is not any person's?...
Seema- so this is wrong, isn't it?
Renu - so this is wrong, isn't it?
Chandrakala - yes it is wrong...it is completely wrong...
Renu - totally wrong...
arrange
block
children
complete
invest
middle-class
money
path
people
shutting
total
wrong
beautician
inquire
marriage
opinion
parlor
wedding

Seema - to put in so much money for one wedding, for people like us is, this in in a way shutting all paths, how are we to arrange our children's weddings?

Chandrakala - I personally did not like it. It is not like everyone can afford such a thing.
afford
begin
deserve
dislike
double
earn
eighty
feel
fifty
good
greedy
job
kid
lakh
life
livelihood
number
occupation
personal
post
start
unemployed
work
agree

Seema - no what happens is, if a kid is not doing anything in life, but if he get 80 lakhs or 50 lakhs for his wedding...
Chandrakala - so what happens?

Seema - ...then the kid who are with a job at a good post(position), they begin to get greedy.
Chandrakala - ...they will get greedy...

Seema - They begin to feel that if, someone who is not doing anything is getting so much for a wedding, then we should get double of that.
Chandrakala- yes, that is right....

Seema - and because of this, the custom of dowry is actually getting encouraged...
Indu-yes, that is true...
booth
confirm
correct
definitely
dowry
encourage
manager
phone
true
custom
right
wrong

Seema - so what do you think, is this right?
Chandrakala - no this is absolutely wrong.
Seema - it is wrong isn't it?
Chandrakala - definitely...

Seema - So we, at least, must have this in our hearts that such a thing is wrong, and that at least we wont support such a thing.
Chandrakala - yes...
heart
refuse
support
thing
wedding
feel

Anita - see, there is one question that i would like to ask you people, which is, considering that I am in front of you, what do you think about when you see me? Which class do I belong to, or by looking at the way I'm dressed, my attitude...
attire
attitude
camera
class
clothes
dress
front
inquire
medium
people
question
think
thought
watch
artist
customer
observe
opinion
parlor
see

Chandrakala - we don't feel any.....
Anita- I want to know what you feel when you see me.

Chandrakala - we feel you are one of us when we see you...
Anita - you feel like that by talking to me, how about when you look at me...
speak
talk
group
look
one
part

Chandrakala - even by looking at you we feel you are one of us...
Anita - but you tell me, what about that through my body language, which is definitely different. We are all watching each other thanks to these cameras...
All - yes....
body-language
camera
different
medium
watch
definitely

Anita - now with the way I'm behaving, with the kind of T-shirt I have worn...I'm definitely noticing some kind of a difference...
attire
behave
clothes
difference
notice
sure
t-shirt
wear

Chandrakala - no, I find you very nice...
Indu - even me...
Chandrakala - you are fine, just the way you are.
accept
landlady
manager
nice
opinion
phone booth
agree

Seema- now you can see the faces clearly right?
Anita- yes...now see, at this level I had raised this question because, generally it is seen that, in a society, besides men, for a woman another woman is also quite an enemy...
Seema - right, right, you are absolutely right....
absolutely
clear
face
level
man
observe
question
raise
see
society
daughter-in-law
enemy
inquire
reason
woman

Anita - isn't that true?
Seema - yes yes definitely.
Anita - this is exactly what I wanted to discuss with you, why do you think it happens that a woman is another woman's biggest enemy? Because...
Chandrakala - about this, about this....
discuss
biggest
landlady

Chandrakala - About this, you listen to me. You talk to these 4-5 who are seated there. They will tell you properly.
Anita- definitely. Tell us, whatever you have to say, tell us. Why....
Seema - see, the thing is...
Anita - why and how is it that a woman is another woman's biggest enemy?
definitely
explain
listen
properly
seated
sit
speak
talk

Indu - I think, that a woman, for another woman....
Seema - according to me, I feel that, every woman feels that, 'the amount of hardships that I have suffered, during my time, out of that, some of those hardships I have to give some to my daughter in law. This is what I feel. OK?
amount
booth
feel
manager
opinion
phone
think
time
transfer
hardship
suffer

Seema - they tend to develop a mentality that the way they used to live during that time (in their youth), their daughters in law have to live in the same way.
Anita - this is very...i mean...
Seema - isn't it? And if they try to not suffer those hardships, then...i mean they are basically forced to suffer.
compulsory
develop
force
live
mentality
tendency
youth
artist
customer
parlor
problem

Anita - now see, there is another thing in what you just said. I can understand if a woman is suffering or has any problem. But when she is enjoying, or with freedom she also has some form of physical freedom in any way, then that is where the problem begins for all, then may it be a mother in law, or any other woman...basically women begin to have a problem with each other.
begin
body
complete
control
different
discuss
education
enjoy
enjoying
freedom
level
mother-in-law
own
physical
spoke
start
suffering
type
understand
wish
speak
talk
woman

On one level we wish to talk about freedom and discuss it. See there are different types of freedom. On one hand there is freedom for education, on the other hand there is the freedom to have complete control over your own body.

Seema - what is her name?
Anita - Isn't it?
Manju - Kamlesh
Seema - OK, Kamlesh Didi (sister) I want to talk to you please. Kamlesh Didi (sister)?
Kamlesh - yes?
Seema - please take the mic (microphone) and talk to me.
Kamlesh - yes, tell me.
Seema - please come in the front, so that everyone can see you properly...
ahead
come
didi
front
mic
microphone
please
request
sister
want
watch
daughter-in-law
everyone
look
neighbor
properly
see

Anita - (garble)
Kamlesh - yes, now tell me.
Seema - OK now you know us very well, right?
Kamlesh - yes...
Seema - you know us....you can see me right? You can see everyone?
Kamlesh - yes...well, I can't see you people properly...

(laughter)
know
laughter
people
recognize
say
tell
inquire

Kamlesh - how should I see you?
Seema - don't you have a TV?
Kamlesh - I don't have my bifocals.
Seema - no, do you have a TV or not?
Kamlesh - I do have a TV.
bifocals
possess
spectacles
television
tv

Seema - then you will be able to see me on the TV, watch it...
Kamlesh - how can I see you, I really cant see you...
Seema - this is me.
Kamlesh - yes, now I can see you.
Seema - ....OK.
ability
able
inability
look
point
see
unable
watch

Kamlesh - yes, tell me.
Seema - OK... now you have reached late here, or were you listening to us for sometime?
Kamlesh - how could be listening, I was cooking at home and was just told by Rajinder.
inform
late
listen
reach
say
sometime
speak
tell
cook
home
inquire

Seema - so now, that you are here...
Kamlesh - now I'm leaving...
Seema - no wait, first you talk to us and then go. What we are discussing here is that, the women who are at home (housewives) are either watching serials at home, or are gossiping among each other, isn't it?
Kamlesh - yes.
correct
eat
gossip
housewife
leave
person
right
serial
talk
wait
watch
agree
discuss

Seema - and are only talking about what someone else has cooked at home and what she is eating.
Kamlesh - you are right.
Seema - this is what happens right?
Kamlesh - yes.

Seema - but we, as in, should we be also doing the same or should we not do something like that?
Kamlesh - we shouldn't be doing that.
Seema - we shouldn't be doing that right? But then how will we pass our free time?
opinion
free
pass
time

Kamlesh - huh?
Seema - How will we pass our free time?
Kamlesh - How should we pass our free time? By talking about good things...
educate
food
good
house
prepare inquire
serial
talk
television
thing
tv
watch
children

Seema - by talking about good things right?
Kamlesh - By talking about good things... watching good serials, by educating our children, by preparing good food in our homes.
Seema - OK...

Seema - OK, but besides that, can't we also do some social work for our village? For our children?
benefit
people
social
village
work
inquire

Kamlesh - we can do that, why shouldn't we do that?
Seema - we can do that right? So if we do something like that, will you support us?
ahead
forward
agree
everyone
support

Kamlesh - why wouldn't I?
Seema - you will be ahead of everyone?
Kamlesh - yes, ahead of everyone!

Seema - see we now have the support of a lot of people and now to all you people, I'm going to ....
Anita - I will leave my address and go, so when something happens please invite me.
All - yes ...definitely.
address
artist
customer
definitely
good
invite
keep
leave
like
lot
mind
parlor
say
thing
want
landlady
people
please
request
speak
talk

Anita - even I would like to talk to everyone.
Seema - yes, yes...
Chandrakala - no, if you want, we wouldn't mind keeping you here.

Renu - that is a very good thing to say!
Kamlesh - yes it was a very good thing you said.
Chandrakala - we will keep you here, wont let you go.

Seema - OK, Chanda Didi(sister), who are the people behind you? Introduce us please. They are your daughters in law right? Let us talk to them please.
behind
didi
inquire
introduce
sister

Neetu - hello, hi.
Seema - hello hi! Who are you? Tell us your name please.
Neetu - I'm her younger daughter in law, my name is Neetu.
Renu - yes....the one who is very pretty...
Seema - OK...
greeting
introduction
name
younger
beautician
parlor
pretty

Neetu - maybe Renu Didi (sister) knows me as well...
Renu - yes, that is why I said the one is small and pretty...till now I couldn't recognize you. So what happened with you?
didi
inquire
know
recognize
sister
small
well

Neetu - I just had a daughter.
Renu - Ah!...very good. Congratulations.
Neetu - I just had a daughter, that is why I am looking like this.
Seema- OK, OK
birth
congratulate
congratulations
daughter
deliver
look
mother
reason
seem

Renu - listen to what Seema Didi (sister) is saying
Seema - what is your name you said? Meenu? Did you say Meenu?
Neetu - no it is Neetu.
Seema - Ritu?
Neetu - no Neetu ...
Seema - Neetu you have been sitting here for quite sometime now, listening to our discussions. So now what do you feel? Should we be doing something?
confirm
didi
discuss
discussion
feel
listen
name
opinion
say
sister
sit
speak
talk
time
inquire

Neetu - yes, we should be doing something.
Seema - so are you with us?
Neetu - definitely I am.
Seema - OK
agree
definitely
side
work
support

Seema - it is OK, now you are also with us. And is that your Didi(sister) with you?
Neetu - yes...
Seema - let us talk to her as well.
behind
sit
speak
talk
didi
sister

Geetu -Didi (sister), Namaste...
Seema - Namaste...what is your name?
Geetu - Geetu...
Seema - Ritu?
Geetu - Geetu...
Kamlesh - these people will be able to make a very good picture(cinema)...
Seema - OK...
confirm
good
namaste
name
picture
cinema
family
film
neighbor
woman

Kamlesh - here families are so big, we can make one film for each house.
Seema - so you will also give us your support?
Geetu - yes...
Seema - huh?
Geetu - yes.
big
front
hand
hold
house
mic
microphone
s.t.d
sit
booth
manager
phone
support

Seema - now you tell us, Didi (sister)....our Didi (sister) at the STD, who I sitting with the mic in her hand in the front...
Indu -yes yes I'm here only...tell me.

Seema - you are here only right?
Indu -yes...
Seema - so you all are also with us right?
Indu - oh! I'm definitely with you.
Kamlesh - we are all with you.
agree
all
definitely
side

Seema - very...
Indu - really, for any kind of good work I m...i ll do whatever you tell me.
Seema - OK....
good
kind
ready
type
work

Kamlesh - we are also not getting it...
Anita - yes, we are also not getting anything!
Kamlesh - but we are getting it here....
Anita - Really?
Chandrakala - it is not coming she is just lying...
Anita - OK...
Kamlesh - no no I'm not lying....(laughter)...
confusion
false
get
inquire
landlady
laughter
lie
really
artist
blue
customer
neighbor
parlor
screen
transmission
woman

Here is where i kicked the plug and the cables went off.

Anita - so that is the only thing....
Kamlesh - your connection is faulty....
faulty
wrong
connection

Chandrakala - Lala, is the connection OK?
Kamlesh - Lala's connection is fine...
fine
inquire
landlady

Chandrakala - is everyone's connection off?
Kamlesh - first you tell us who you are.
everyone
off

Seema - the picture is over, only voices are coming, there is only sound.
Kamlesh - everyone's connection is broken....
Anita - it has come, it has come.
artist
audio
broken
come
customer
daughter-in-law
parlor
pass
sound
voice
begin
start

Kamlesh - everyone's connection....we are all connected again!
Chandrakala - you are now connected, we were connected from before.
Kamlesh - Really?
joke
landlady

Lady - hello?
Seema - yes, hello. You also must have been listening to our talks for a long time now.
Lady -yes I have been...
Seema - so what do you think? Are you with us?
Lady - yes I'm with you
Seema - are you?
Lady - yes.
agree
listen
long
opinion
reply
talk
think
time
daughter-in-law
inquire
lady
side
support

Seema - so you will allow those people around you to be on our side as well?
Lady - yes I will, definitely.
Seema - now that we have the support of a lot of people , it is feeling good.
allow
feel
good
definitely
people

Anita - I'm really thinking... because....
Seema - no we people..
Anita - you should get it fixed in any house or any other place, and with that excuse, because see now that we have all been introduced, this connection should now be a waste.
Seema - yes, definitely, you are right.
agree
artist
avoid
club
connection
correct
customer
excuse
explain
fix
group
house
introduce
parlor
place
reason
right
think
waste

Seema - like now a days there is a serial going on with the name of Saloni, in which is shown how the women are trying to pull back the bad traditions of the society so as to move ahead in life.
ahead
back
bad
effort
forward
life
move
name
pull
serial
shown
society
television
tradition
try
tv
way
woman

Seema - does everyone watch it? I do watch it. I like it a lot.
everyone
like
lot
see
view
watch
inquire

Anita - which (serial) was that in which....
Kamlesh - we don't know...
Anita - something with a Dr. Simran...
Indu - Saloni?
Manju - Sanjeevani?
Anita - no no not Sanjeevani...
Chandrakala - was is Udaan?
booth
landlady
manager
neighbor
phone
artist
character
customer
doctor
name
parlor
serial
television
tv
woman

Anita - I had watched a serial in which there was a character with the name Dr. Simran....which was that?
Seema - yes, Dr. Simran...it is Astitva.
agree
different
experience
face
interesting
kind
like
portray
problem
progressive
see
type
watch
way
good

Anita - OK. Astitva. I found that a bit interesting otherwise I don't watch anything else.
Seema - yes, Astitva is a very good serial.
Anita - Astitva was a very good serial right?
Seema - yes it was.

Anita -yes because the progressive way in which a woman was portrayed was good. And the serial also showed different kinds of problems too.
Seema - yes..
Anita - isn't it?

Seema - no, now a days the serial Saloni that is being telecast is a very good serial
Anita - it is a good serial?
Seema -this shows the bad traditions that are followed in Rajasthan, and how some women try to leave those traditions behind and advance. All those women want the same thing, but it is about one woman who has the courage to come forward...
advance
ahead
bad
behind
courage
follow
leave
life
move
one
present
recent
same
telecast
thing
tradition
try
forward
plot
story
want

Seema - in it, everyone seems to be supporting her, but nobody really wants to come forward
come
everyone
nobody
support
help

Seema- so we feel that we should also...like what is happening in our village, according to me something has to be done about it.
feel
occur
opinion
village

Anita - no you are absolutely right. I can say on my behalf that...
Kamlesh - why is Manju sitting quietly? Say something...
Seema - it is not a problem...
agree
artist
correct
customer
encourage
give
group
house
important
inquire
interrupt
problem
right
say
sit
situation
story
support
neighbor
parlor
woman

Anita - ...in every situation, though the support of the group is with you, through this group,....
Kamlesh - tell us the story of your house...
Anita - ... the support that women can give each other, that is very important.

Kamlesh - tell about the movie with Bachan....
Renu - these people show things and.....
Seema - yes there have been some good ones (movies) too ....
actor
beautician
cinema
film
good
movie
name
people
thing

Kid - hello?
Kamlesh - yes? Tell us?
interruption
kid
talk
speak
tell

Renu - yes, tell us...
Seema - yes, so, there are some good movies and some bad movies as well
good
bad
beautician
cinema
daughter-in-law
film
movie
parlor

Seema - yes, so these bad movies, because we watch them, become super-hit and....
Renu - yes, and so they are made...
Seema - ...so such movies are made over and over...
Renu - yes...
again
agree
demand
explain
made
produce
reason
super-hit
watch

Seema - so what we should do is deny these films and say that we don't want to watch them.
Renu - yes, we don't want to watch them....
Kamlesh - (garble)
Indu - what will happen with us saying that?
deny
neighbor
woman
avoid
booth
difference
manager
phone
refuse

Seema - no, we just don't watch them. Say no, we don't want to watch such movies...
Indu -yes, we can't watch them.
bad
four
lot
number
people
spread
word

Seema - and tell four people not to watch those movies too. that will make a lot of difference, as just by telling four people and four more and more, we will be able to tell a lot of people...

Kamlesh - but now a days, these kind of films are watched more and more....
Seema- yes, so that is wrong...
Lady - even if we don't, our children do tend to watch them...
Kamlesh - yes, even if we don't, the children do.
Kid - hello!
argue
kind
lady
prefer
present
recent
tendency
type
wrong
children
interrupt
interruption
kid
neighbor
see
woman

Seema - yes, so we should explain our children too, that no, not this....
Kamlesh - that is there, but children watch it on the sly...
Kid - hello!
sly
explain

Anita - there is also one more reason that our society for fifty years now, is in a strange way a very suppressed society, in which we discuss all different topics, but never discuss anything related to the body, we close all doors when it comes to discussing the body.
Kamlesh - come here...
avoid
body
different
discuss
fifty
need
physical
reason
society
strange
suppress
topic
year
artist
close
customer
door
parlor
shut

Kamlesh - sound is coming through...
Anita - so the door that was closed all this while has now been suddenly opened. So what happens with the opening of this door is that....and this is not your or my problem, this is the problem of the young boys and girls.
audio
boy
common
girl
problem
result
sound
voice
young
open

Anita - so the children who are of the age 16, 17 or 18, 20, because of this door that as opened, that is their age....so if we think about the technology that we have borrowed from foreign countries, we have taken the TV, or through the cable TV we get to watch movies telecast on HBO...so we have taken all that. But how is it possible that it does not have any effect?
age
ask
avoid
borrow
cable
channel
children
cinema
country
effect
film
foreign
hbo
inquire
movie
number
outside
possible
take
technology
teenager
telecast
television
tv

Anita - when, sitting at home, child gets to watch all these things, which , when some time back he would not get to watch these things, then by watching there is bound to be some change in the child.
bad
bound
child
definitely
explain
home
reason
sit
watch
change
result
thing

Anita - so we want to take these things, but there should be no resulting change. Our life cycle should not change. So it does not happen like that.
country
cycle
foreign
life
outside
wrong
avoid
borrow
impossible
take

Anita - This is unrealistic. If you say, give us this much as we will benefit from it, but don't give your bad elements, then that cannot happen. When you take something, you will have to take the entire thing.
bad
benefit
element
entire
explain
give
reason
unrealistic

Anita - so now what can be done?
Kamlesh - keep it...
Anita - tell (me), tell (me)...
do
inquire
keep
now
say
tell
neighbor
woman

Renu - Ninety percent definitely think about the good things. But the remaining ten percent, no matter how much we try to change the way they think...
Kamlesh - the voice coming through is low...
Renu - .....we cant really do it...
audio
good
less
low
number
percent
percentage
remainder
sound
thing
voice
beautician
change
effort
inability
interrupt
interruption
little
think
try
unable

Renu - because I'm alone....
Seema - bring the microphone a little closer...
Renu -yes, so because I am along I cannot really change the way they think. But...
Kamlesh - Speak louder.
alone
better
bigger
closer
didi
discussion
elder
explain
faster
lonely
mic
microphone
reason
say
sister
slow
soft
speak
talk
thought
daughter-in-law
discuss
topic

Renu - Slower? I should do it slower?
Seema - you...you ...
Kamlesh - talk faster...

Seema - you are trying to say something, Didi (sister), you say...
Kamlesh - I am trying to say, what kind of topic that you are discussing?
Seema - no the topic...
Kamlesh - talk about something better...

Seema - no this topic is a very important one, it is necessary...
Renu - this topic that we must discuss. It is topics like these that we avoid discussing.
necessary
need
avoid
important

Kamlesh - OK
Renu - because, we keep talking about this one and that one, but we never discuss what it is that we want to do or what we can do.
Kid - hello!
biggest
entertainment
good
gossip
interruption
joy
kid
neighbor
never
talk
together
unimportant
want
woman
work

Kamlesh - we should do some entertaining things together...
Renu - no, no, entertainment....this is entertaining. If you do some good work, then the joy one gets from it...
Kid - hello!
Renu - that is the biggest entertainment.

Anita - Sudha behen (sister), you tell us your story....tell your story....
Sudha - what story do I tell? I have already mentioned that I'm a house-maid.
Renu - Sudha,bring the microphone higher....
Sudha - eh?
Renu - yes, yes, hold the microphone there...
behen
ear
higher
hold
housemaid
laborer
livelihood
mention
mic
microphone
occupation
sister beautician
story
artist
customer
speak
tell

Anita - Tell us... tell us... because what happens is, we generally tend to hear the middle class or the upper class talk... and we never, properly... because, every woman has her own different difficulties attached with her own life and how she solves them, or whatever...
attach
chance
come
different
difficulty
every
experience
explain
feel
hear
manage
middle-class
never
opinion
out
properly
reason
solve
survive
talk
tendency
type
understand
upper-class
life
woman

Anita - ... how she comes out of them and manages them....we have to know all kinds of experiences and understand them....i do feel that all types of.....Sudha - ji tell us something....we wont get a chance after this...

Anita - now that I have arrived here by mistake, then.....
Kamlesh - OK, tell us now....
Sudha - I am an uneducated person.....I'm not literate also...
Anita - no, no, that does not make any difference, your education is known by the way you live you life.
arrive
coincidence
difference
education
here
illiterate
judge
literate
mistake
neighbor
person
persuade
uneducated
housemaid
live

Anita- tell us...
Sudha - I have lived enough of my life, now it is time for the children's lives.
Anita - no, no, this is very wrong. See I have more white hair than you.
Kid - hello!
Anita - hello?
Sudha - now the children have to live their lives.
Anita - yes....mother?
children
color
compare
enough
grey
hair
interruption
kid
mother
own
persuasion
speak
time
white
wrong
call
phone

Anita - yes who's that?
Indu - she is on a call there..
booth
inquire
manager

Kamlesh - speak, speak.
Seema - OK...didi, Kamlesh Didi (sister), you tell us, how there are these kind of people in our neighborhood....
Renu - hello?
didi
kind
neighbor
neighborhood
people
sister
type
beautician
daughter-in-law
speak
talk
woman

Renu - yes, Sudha, please speak....your...um ...your...
Seema - yes, Sudha tell us...
Renu - tell us something about your life. We are all women sitting here, and we are here to listen. Who all can you go to talk to? So whatever is on your mind, you can share them with us, speak to us.
among
express
listen
mind
persuade
request
share
sit
tell
housemaid
life

Sudha - hmm.. yes, I am quite depressed in a way. From the very beginning I am living life on my own. I don't have anyone of my own.
alone
always
beginning
depress
live
lonely

Sudha - my man, who is there, is also nikamma (useless)...
Kamlesh - nikamma (useless)
Sudha - totally...
neighbor
nikamma
total
useless
woman
husband
man

Seema- so is he not earning anything? What...what is the problem?
Renu - Isn't he working?
daughter-in-law
problem
beautician
earn
inquire
job
livelihood
parlor
support
work

Renu - doesn't your man do anything?

Sudha- like that he does a lot of things, but only those which are of any use to him.
Kamlesh - which are of any use to him?
Sudha - yes..
Renu - in what way?
lot
neighbor
use
way
woman
explanation

Sudha - if I would have thought earlier, I would have been able to marry someone else, but I didn't, as I thought I would be able to spend my life living with my children.
ability
able
explain
live
marry
spend
thought
wish
without
children
life

Renu - a woman always tolerates things because she thinks about her children first. Right?
Sudha - yes...
Renu - but, what is the use of such a life?
agree
consider
think
tolerate
beautician
inquire
parlor
use
woman

Sudha - it is of no use....
Renu - such a life is of no use, when you...what is the use of such a man? As in what I am trying to say is, what is the use of a man who cannot help you in any way, who cannot even be with you for support.
beat
burden
carry
explain
explanation
express
help
husband
inability
man
meaning
opinion
partner
person
problem
same
similar
story
support
unable
alcohol
artist
customer
drink
job
livelihood
neighbor
work

Anita - if the person with you cannot be your partner are you going to do with him? Carry his burdens? The man who should help carry his woman's burden, the woman is already carrying her own problems and... there are many women who work with us, all have the same story, that their husband drinks and beats them up.
Kamlesh - beats them....

Anita - the man drinks and hits his woman. And because the women come to work, they get around 4,5,6,7 hours in a day, during which they are happy. They sit with each other, talk to each other, and work. If they don't have those hours then their life is complete hell. This is a very sad thing, you see...
Kamlesh - that is true....they can share their sorrows...
agree
away
break
complete
condition
happy
hell
hour
number
peace
reason
sad
share
sit
situation
sorrow
talk
true

Sudha - yes. But I'm not one of those women who, themselves earn and then tolerate the beatings form their men.
Kamlesh - Ah!
beating
earn
hurt
husband
man
tolerate
housemaid
type

Anita - that is a very good thing! That is a very good thing!
Kamlesh - very true!
Sudha - ..not one of them!
Anita - I tell them the same thing, that you....
explain
good
praise
same
true
artist
customer
parlor
tell

Anita - OK, and then they cry after all the beatings and the drinking, but then they fast for their men. So when they would come for work, they would say they are fasting.
alcohol
come
cry
custom
drink
fast
hurt
husband
indian
life
long
pray
say
work
abuse
beating

Sudha - yes, women can tolerate the beatings, listen to the abusive language, listen to what their men speak, but only when the man knows how to respect the woman, when he appreciates the woman.
Anita - only then, definitely.
agree
appreciate
condition
definitely
housemaid
language
listen
respect
speak
tolerate
woman
man

Anita - so , after all that when they would be fasting or their men, I would tell them, anyway you look so weak, you don't even look like you have any strength, and on top of that you are fasting, then this is....when a person who eats well wants to fast, then it is a different thing, but a woman who is not getting food, whose husband is beating her up, then why is ..... there are problems existing in our society concerning these issues.
advice
appearance
concern
custom
different
eat
exist
fast
food
get
husband
indian
life
long
pray
problem
society
strength
tell
unable
weak
well
issue

Sudha- the issue with me is that from the very beginning, my poverty is just the way it was.
beginning
continue
poverty
remain
housemaid

Sudha - my age is 40-45. but now I don't feel there is any chance when I can sit and eat with my children and my husband....there is no chance now....
age
both
chance
eat
feel
husband
now
number
sit
children

Sudha - I earn and eat as my luck allows me to. As long as I am living it is OK. When it is my children's turn to start living, then we will see what is to be done.
allow
begin
laborer
live
long
luck
occupation
start
work
earn
future
job

Sudha - more than that, what do I say now? I have told you enough of my troubles.
Anita - ....enough....
Renu - what did you do? You were saying that your husband does earn but only for himself, then how do you manage to stick through with him? That is what I want to know, so that listening to you, may be we also could get to know about it and if in the future, if we see someone going through a similar situation, we could help her get some courage.
Anita - we must give them some strength, definitely.
artist
courage
customer
enough
help
know
livelihood
manage
situation
strength
trouble
understand
beautician
husband
inquire
parlor

Sudha - My man is not with me, for me to do anything about it. He is not here, he has gone home.
Renu - OK, OK....
Sudha - he has gone to the village.
away
daughter-in-law
home
inability
village
good
leave
man

Seema - did you leave him?
Sudha - yes I left him.
Seema - that is a very good thing that you did, that you left him first.
the situation in Khirkee in 2006 is not unlike what happened in 2014, january

Sudha - I...
Anita - being able to accept that is very good. Because many a times women tend to hesitate that they have left their men.
accept
hesitate
tendency
time
artist
customer
woman

Anita - they think that in our society, if a woman takes a big step like that, then she would be looked down upon.
judge
society
think
step

Anita - why? If a man leaves a woman, that is something that happens everyday. But if a woman leaves a man, then who knows what could be wrong with her. And I'm glad you said it, because no one is mad enough to leave anyone.
action
alone
crazy
everyday
glad
leave
mad
man
ruin
support
wrong
happy
life
reason

Anita - When a woman, leaves someone, or takes any other step in her life, then behind her action, there is always a very deep reason, otherwise who would want to ruin their own life, or to live alone, without any support? Who would want that? No one!

Anita - but when there are reasons like these, then it is always better to act than suffer for the entire life, by crying, by dragging, what people call the vehicle(life). Dragging the vehicle of life is understandable, for it always done one way or the other, but what is the use of it? Not one person will be happy....what do I say? I really don't understand this....
act
cry
drag
people
suffer
use
vehicle
understand

Sudha - no, I do understand this....i mean, if a husband and wife are happy together...then the biggest of problems can be solved. But if the husband is unhappy with his wife, and cant be happy, then it becomes very difficult to spend time...
biggest
housemaid
husband
pass
problem
solve
spend
time
together
unhappy
wife

Seema - no I feel that, a woman leaves her man when for her other ways (options) from all sides are shut.
Anita- definitely, definitely, you are absolutely right.
Seema - because one...
artist
close
customer
definitely
feel
leave
man
opinion
option
parlor
shut
side
way
daughter-in-law
woman

Seema - the amount of compromises a woman can do, maybe no one else can. She does compromise, as much as she can. But she shouldn't compromise too much where, in the end she begins to ignore her life. OK, do compromise, because in life one has to compromise in life.
ability
able
amount
compromise
ignore
life
stake

Sudha - no, no... the world keeps saying that it is important for a man to be there (with a woman), because a man is the support a woman should have....
Kid - Hello!
close
far
important
interruption
kid
near
necessary
opinion
support
world
housemaid
neighbor
use

Sudha - the support is necessary, but the other thing is, if in spite of being close to you , the man still seems to be far away, then what is the use of being together?
Kamlesh - there is no use.....

Seema - no, you are absolutely right. You are better off being away.
Kamlesh - ..(garble)...
Sudha - huh?
Seema - you have...
Anita - and if it turns out to be a burden, then what is the use.....
Sudha - what is the use...
Anita - absolutely right...
agree
artist
better
burden
care
children
correct
customer
daughter-in-law
earn
expenditure
health
job
livelihood
occupation
parlor
pay
rent
right
wages

Sudha - now I am taking care of three children here. Alone. I am paying the rent, taking care of the expenditures, their health, looking after everything.
Anita - totally....

Sudha - if a man is supposed to support, then by now I should have turned into a man (or) there would have been no need for me to be a laborer.
Kamlesh - ?.....? is peeping and watching...
Sudha - huh?.....but.....
interruption
laborer
maid
man
need
peep
support
transform
watch

Sudha - he did not help me. He kept thinking that he was alone. So when he started feeling lonely, then I sent him back home, told him to go alone as he was anyway feeling lonesome. It is not necessary to take the woman(wife) along.
alone
feel
help
home
lonely
lonesome
necessary
sent
think
wife

Seema - no, with us also there is a behen(sister) nearby. She also has the same story, where she too has three children, whom she looks after on her own, she earns. And she has a husband, who comes, in a year, in six months, takes away her earnings, he will hit her, beat her up, then would run away.
abuse
away
beat
behen
children
earn
earnings
hit
job
livelihood
money
month
number
run
same
similar
sister
story
time
wages
year
daughter-in-law
husband

Sudha - hmm..
Seema - OK?..so we advice her than it is better not to have a man rather than have someone like him.
Anita - that is absolutely right....no definitely...
Seema - but in this society...She is a woman of this society finds it very difficult to leave her husband....
advice
better
correct
difficult
housemaid
leave
man
right
society
woman
artist
customer
parlor

Anita - I will give you the story of my house. My own brother...when I look at the face of my sister in law, I ....as in I tell my mother too, that I cant look at it....it is like, when a fully green tree dries up...she is like that full green tree, who after 10-15 years of marriage, has slowly ...i have seen her slowly dry up right before my eyes. I stay here and they in Lucknow.
brother
color
die
dry
eye
family
green
house
lucknow
marriage
mother
sister-in-law
slowly
stay
story
time
tree
year

Anita - anyway, I'm telling you...when you look at it, everything seems fine. We have a house, he earns well, he takes her out, feeds her ice cream, and all that, and this tamasha show continues.
Seema - hmm....
alright
continue
drama
earn
feed
fine
good
ice cream
job
livelihood
show
tamasha
within
daughter-in-law
problem

Seema - yes....
Anita - but somewhere within their relationship there must be a problem, because, in front of my eyes that beautiful girl has gone dry like a dried tree.
beautiful
dry
eye
relationship
tree
girl

Anita - and she cant say anything...because she has not support from her family and she cant even talk about that problem with anyone. And this society of ours, never encourages these things so that such girls can talk about it with someone, or how to get out of such a situation. And my mother is included. I tell my mother that you don't even support her. The role that you have played in this whole matter, there is something wrong in it.
encourage
matter
mother
never
role
society
support
talk
unable
wrong
discuss
express
family
inability

Anita - because.....
Seema - yes...
Anita - and you all know that there is not just one such case, and you must have seen other such cases around you.
Seema - yes...
agree
case
daughter-in-law
freedom
observe
seen
woman

Anita- so we always...(coughs)...I'm trying to say that this is not an exception. This is a rule. There are some people who happen to be lucky and are able to spend their life in a happy environment. But all of the rest have the same story.
environment
exception
happy
life
lucky
people
rest
rule
same
similar
spend
story

Seema - that behen(sister) is with us right now, I will let her talk to you now....Bimla, talk please.
behen
daughter-in-law
encourage
present
request
sister
speak
talk

Sudha - there are many women, who in spite of being with a man, have another man in their life. But I don't have any such ideas. I want to live a life of dignity.
dignity
idea
life
man
relationship
thought
woman
housemaid

Sudha - when someone could not be happy with one person, how will they get happiness with someone else?
Anita - true, true...
Sudha - if luck is not favoring....everything happens according to your luck.
favor
happy
luck
lucky
person
true
truth
unhappy
artist
customer
happiness
parlor

Manju - talk to her....
Anita - no, there will be happiness if love really exists between two people. Then it is fine. If not, then how will it happen?
Sudha - yes...
agree
alright
encourage
exist
fine
people
talk
daughter-in-law
love
speak

Sudha - for men, love means making children, that is all...
Kamlesh - that is all...
Sudha - ...and to receive love from a woman. But the woman has no needs.
Kamlesh - the woman has no needs....
Manju - Anita-ji please....
Anita - that is what I have been telling you all. We never speak about what a woman needs.
avoid
children
discuss
ignore
man
need
produce
receive
neighbor
woman

Manju - OK, Anita-ji please talk to her as well...
Sudha - how can that happen till we all.
Kamlesh - tell us Bimla...
Sudha - .....i tolerate, and tolerate, but when I couldn't tolerate anymore, I send him away.
Anita - very good.
artist
away
customer
good
inability
parlor
please
request
talk
tolerate
unable

Bimla - OK Didi(sister), Namaste....
Kamesh - Namste...
Sudha - Didi (sister), Namaste...please speak....
cook
didi
greet
namaste
sister
working

Kamlesh - tell Bimla....
encourage
tell

Bimla - what I am saying is...
Kamlesh - yes...?
Bimla - in a way, my husband was pretty OK. When I got married......
Kamlesh - ?....?
Anita - isn't there lesser sound coming through?
Kamlesh - yes the sound is less....
accept
agree
alright
artist
audio
customer
fine
husband
less
marriage
parlor
pass
sound
voice
cook
working

Manju - hold it properly....
Bimla - ...it was all good. But now.... he what he has been doing for the last 5, 6 7 years, 8, years, is that he quietly deceives me and runs away... and he doesn't even tell me that...
daughter-in-law
deceive
deception
good
inform
past
run
year
time

Bimla - this time during Deepawali, I brought him here, two months back. And I took care of him here, thinking that he would live here well, and this time wont run away. He took me to my maiden house, and told me in the night to stay there with my mother and that he would take me away in the morning.
bring
care
deepawali
diwali
festival
happy
hope
house
live
maiden
month
mother
night
promise
stay
thought
morning

Bimla - and in the morning, that same time, he ran away. He kept the car in the park and ran away. Always he does the same thing.
car
park
repeat
run
same
vehicle

Bimla - I am taking care of the livelihood of three children. I cook in 2-3 houses.
care
chef
children
earn
house
livelihood
occupation
work

Anita - the the sound coming through is very soft.
Kamlesh - yes...a little...
Anita - it is very soft.
artist
audio
complain
customer
less
little
neighbor
parlor
pass
soft
sound
voice

Bimla - I cook in 2-3 houses. And with that, I'm taking care of the children. At one of the places where I cook, I have been sending my children for tuition. 1500-1600 rupees is the charge. There too I'm providing for the fees
amount
care
charge
children
earn
fee
house chef
livelihood
money
occupation
provide
rupees
send
tuition
work
cook
working

Bimla - what do I do? I'm very troubled. I cant find any way to change him.
depress
inquire
method
problem
trouble
way
worry
change
husband
man

Sudha - to change him, there is only one way, I will tell you....
Kamlesh - OK tell...
Sudha - ... when the man comes, don't let him come near you stand with a stick...
Kamlesh - with stick ...but then what?
Sudha - yes...that is when he will change.
advice
beat
hit
hold
neighbor
speak
stand
stick
tell
housemaid

Bimla - the thing is, I'm living in Khirkee village. I have found such good families here, that my time is passing well. If would have been any where else I would have died. I'm living happily, with what I earn. I am so happy now...I was nothing before my husband...
Sudha - I ...
chef
cook
die
family
find
good
house
khirkee
live
pass
time
village
work
working
worthless
earn
happy
job
livelihood
occupation
satisfaction

Sudha - I, too, am happy with what I earn. I have never eaten on my husband's earnings.
Kamlesh - never eaten...
Sudha - and that is why I send him away by beating him away with sticks...
eat
independent
laborer
neighbor
send
beat
hit
stick

Bimla - I cant even hit him with sticks..
Sudha - why cant you?...
Bimla - because I'm a woman of this society, I cant hit him with sticks....
Sudha - by asking for your hand, in front of this society, he got you here. Now he is not even giving you roti (bread), kapda(clothes), and neither is he looking after your children. What else can you do with him? You want to do his puja(worship him), you want to remove his arti (pray to him)
arti
avoid
bread
care
chef
children
clothes
cook
inability
inquire
kapda
man
marriage
pray
puja
roti
society
unable
wedding
working
worship

Manju - she is from a good family. Out of helplessness she has to work. She is from the Rajput family and household of Mathura. Her family; brothers sisters are in very good families.
attach
belong
brother
caste
household
job
mathura
rajput
sister
daughter-in-law
family
good
helplessness
occupation
work

Manju- it is just her luck....
Kamlesh - her luck is bad...
Manju - that is why.... this woman belongs to a good family. So she is doing this out of helplessness. She hasn't even told anyone from her family that she works in people's houses.
accept
bad
chef
cook
explain
house
luck
people
tell
neighbor
reason
woman

Anita - I'm telling you, that you will have to search for your happiness within yourself
Sudha - yes...
Anita - even now by listening to you I have felt that you are still not happy and that is because you still seem to be searching for that happiness in someone else, in your man who turned out to be the way he is and now is gone.
agree
feel
happy
hear
housemaid
husband
leave
listen
look
man
search
unhappy
advice
artist
customer
happiness
parlor
self
suggestion
within

Anita - till you don't find your happiness within yourself till then....
Kamlesh - yes, in your heart, a little....
Anita - there will be no satisfaction inspite of being away from distress.
dissatisfaction
distress
heart
little
satisfaction
find

Sudha - thats there....
Anita - so you will have to find it somewhere within yourself, all those things which you were looking for in the others. But you have to find them in yourself.
agree
housemaid
husband
look
people
search
man

Anita - and that which is not necessary....a person within self is like a blossomed flower, man or woman, whoever, then that person really does not need anything else.
blossom
flower
need
person
unnecessary
woman

Anita - so this...I'm just sharing my opinion with you, that, if you find those things within yourself then your life will be very....
find
opinion
share
thing
within
life

Bimla - no my life is very happy....
Anita - but I don't feel it is true, by listening to you....
Bimla - I just don't stay happy because....
Anita -what? What is the reason?
Sudha - you are not happy listening to what I said?
Chandrakala - wait, the others are talking, right......
Bimla - no I'm very happy....
Anita - now there is a bit of smile on your face. Till now you were not smiling.
Bimla- Didi (sister) see..........
didi
disagree
face
feel
happy
hear
inquire
listen
look
remain
smile
talk
true
wait
chef
cook
reason
sister
woman
working

Bimla - the matter is that, I'm belong to a very good home. My family is not...my brothers and friends are not, and I'm also not like.....the people here in Khirkee, I consider as my real brothers and that is why I'm living here. But I cant even live that openly, because these are my relatives, and they would think, 'is there someone else in Bimla's heart?'
belong
brother
family
feelings
freely
friend
good
khirkee
like
matter
people
real
relatives
think
thought
village
explain
heart
live
man

Bimla - in my heart, is only that man my husband. That is why I cant live happily in the open.
free
husband
inability
one
open
outside
unable
happy

Bimla - but I'm very happy with what I earn. I earn 6000 rupees per month....
Anita - that is very good.
Bimla - 6000 rupees per month. And also the people of the village are also giving me a lot of support.
amount
artist
customer
earn
good
job
month
occupation
parlor
people
rupees
wages
lot
support
village

Bimla - I'm not talking about the men. I'm not really close to the men. But my bhabhiyaan sisters in law in Khirkee (the women of the village) love me a lot, from their heart. Come what may, they are always there for me.
bhabi
close
help
love
man
present
refer
sister-in-law

Anita - then what is the problem? Why are you still feeling that there is something amiss?
Bimla - Didi (sister) I don't feel that anything is amiss. I was watching TV at home with the fan and the cooler on. There are all kinds of luxuries. I have also made this house.
amiss
continue
cooler
didi
explain
fan
feel
home
inquire
luxury
sister
television
tv
type
watch
artist
customer
disagree
parlor
problem

Bimla - but I'm not so happy. What to do, my life seems like a big problem. I have to earn and eat on my own. If I get catch fever...
Anita - no, it is not like you are being made to earn and eat on your own. I think every woman should do that. What I think is in the coming years, after some time, let fifty years pass by, this is what will be happening and the woman will be happier doing it.
big
earn
eat
fever
force
future
happier
happy
independence
independent
life
opinion
pass
time
year
job
livelihood
work

Bimla - now, Didi(sister) the thing is...
Anita - yes?
Bimla - is that what is hurting me is...
Anita - is that with the others it is that...with me this has happened...
Bimla - yes...
ask
belong
brother
caste
compare
deny
depress
did
disgrace
family
good
high-caste
house
hurt
inquire
jaat
maiden
manage
people
reason
self-pity
sister
step
stop
unlucky
villager
wrong
complain
feel
survive
tell
village

Anita -no, no... you have to stop feeling unlucky.
Bimla - I'm from a village, from a good family. It is not even my jaat (caste)... I'm from a higher caste... so the villagers go to my maiden house and tell them, 'Bimla goes and cooks in people's houses'. So my brothers tell me, 'Bimla, what are you doing? How are you managing your livelihood? Have you taken any wrong steps?' I tell them, 'Brother, I'm not doing anything.'

Bimla - even if I'm just cooking, when women hear things and from here go to the village, they say, 'Oh! She is on the verge of starving to death, that is why she goes around cooking in the village.'
Anita - OK...
Bimla - I have left everyone behind. I tell them, if you are feeling bad about it, even you don't come near me. I, with my children....
allow
bad
behind
children
death
force
gossip
hear
leave
near
starvation
starve
artist
customer
parlor

Anita - well see, let me tell you one thing. All the problems lie here. Here, there are so many issues regarding distinction...that a person belonging to the higher caste will not do this, and that the one form the lower caste...
Bimla - yes, yes...
Anita - see, everyone, goes to the bathroom, no matter how high the caste that one belongs to. So, I mean, this is very....
Bimla - our caste....
bathroom
belong
equal
indifference
lie
low-caste
person
problem
reason
use
caste
discrimination
distinction
high-caste
issue

Anita - this is a very sad thing, because anyone can go through a bad phase...
Bimla - with us....
Anita - so where is the question about caste in this?
Bimla - see in our caste....
Anita - but that is why you have that pressure on you, because in your caste this should not be happening but it has happened.
bad
jaat
opinion
phase
pressure
question
sad
difference

Anita - in the end, is a higher caste is closer to God...
Bimla - yes, yes it is...
Anita - is it?....so a person belonging to a higher caste is closer to God? I don't accept that.
accept
belong
closer
god
refuse

Bimla - I work... (?) If my brother or nephew happens to come...
Anita - a person, even if he is from a higher caste, will also fall sick, will also die one day, or be born...all what happens to those of a lower caste, the same things he will go through.
behen
born
brother
burden
day
death
die
experience
issue
know
knowledge
load
low-caste
nephew
person
pressure
pressurize
problem
result
same
sick
similar
sister
work

Anita - So all these issues, as they say, is a big burden that we have just taken upon us. Its results are like, how our behen (sister) here began experiencing pressure of it, when she had that problem.
Woman - now she will say something, right? Will she say something?

Bimla - I am very happy. Really, with my children. We all sleep together...
Anita - comfortably, in peace...
Bimla - ...we sleep, we are living very well. I even dance with my children...
Anita - why not! Why not!
comfort
enjoy
happy
live
peace
sleep
together
well
children
dance

Bimla - all three of my children, boys and girl, make me dance all the time!
Anita - definitely, it is your right to enjoy! What, don't you have the right to?
boy
enjoyment
girl
right
time

Woman - even I want to speak...hello? Hello?
Sudha- hmm.. hello?
W - I want to say that, actually, I have a brother here in Khirkee village. Hello? I own the Mahima Beauty Parlor, at 93, Khirkee village.
address
brother
housemaid
khirkee
occupation
speak
village
beautician
earn
livelihood
owner

W - so like you said, a lady who is alone can still do a lot of things. I am also alone. I have a little girl. My husband is not with me , it has been ten years. I want to earn on my own, with my hard work. First I was somewhere else. I was in Malve Nagar. But now I have opened my parlor and want to earn money with my own efforts and hard work, so that I too get ahead in life.
advance
ahead
child
effort
girl
hard work
husband
independent
job
lady
life
live
migrate
money
mother
move
open
survive
woman
year
alone

W - actually I like to live alone a lot. And I'm enjoying being alone. Hello?
Sudha - yes? Hello!
enjoy
housemaid
like
respond
satisfaction

W - see I'm happy.
Shaina - we are listening Didi (sister)....
Manju - everyone is listening you go ahead and speak ...
Shaina - ...you are talking about he Mahima Beauty Parlor which is next to the STD booth right?
W - yes, yes...
adjacent
booth
daughter-in-law
didi
encourage
happy
hear
listen
phone
s.t.d
sister
speak
talk

W - because I too earn through hard work. I also wish that two three ladies come to me as well. Even my hands should be working, so that the expenditures of my parlor and my own can be looked after.
busy
care
earn
expenditure
hand
hard work
livelihood
pay
survive
wish
work
lady

W- I want to serve people. My parlor does not have high rates. I have come here to serve people. I'm a Christian lady.
charge
christian
high
money
people want
rate
serve

W - and I'm here to help people. I'm not greedy about things, everything. And I wish to , with my hard work, and my.... I find the people of Khirkee very lovable. They are nice people. All the ladies here are very nice. How many ever girls that come to me are very nice. I love all of them. And I want everyone to stay good, all the ladies to stay with harmony and love.
greedy
hard work
harmony
help
lovable
love
nice
people
stay
want
wish
good
khirkee
village

Sudha - so you have started the shop on your own?
W - yes...at 93, Khirkee village. Near the STD booth.
Sudha - that is very good!
W - yes. Because I am also alone...
Bimla - that way, I...
adjacent
alone
booth
housemaid
independent
inquire
interrupt
phone
reason
s.t.d
shop
chef
cook
woman
working

Bimla - Didi(sister) listen...
W - yes, speak please...
Sudha - yes?
Bimla - listen to me...i want to talk to Didi (sister)
Sudha- yes yes... go ahead...
Bimla- I wish to, to my husband, can it happen that he, over there, gets beaten up with sticks?
didi
encourage
husband
listen
please
request
sister
speak
stick
talk
want
wish
beat
hit

Bimla - once if he get a thrashing in front of me.
Sudha - no no, don't let him get beaten up by anyone else...
Bimla - then what?
Sudha - no ...
Bimla - no I can't do it on my own...
Anita - not by anyone else, you will have to do it on your own....
Sudha - not by someone else...if someone else hits him then others will complain....
Manju - I'm with you!
alone
artist
complain
customer
daughter-in-law
front
refuse
support
thrashing
witness
housemaid
independent

Sudha - if you want him to change, do it yourself.
W - people don't change...
Bimla - no the thing is...
W - nobody changes....
interrupt
man
want
wish
beautician
change
husband
nobody
owner
people

Sudha - huh?
W - nobody changes..
Bimla - there are lady police....i threatened him. The other day he called and said, ' Bimla don't you ...'
call
lady
phone
telephone
threaten
chef
cook
police
woman
working

Sudha- oh! Don't get into matter of going to the police. I have done a police complaint. The policeman told me, 'Ah! If the man has fallen for someone else, what can I do? You both live separately'
Bimla - .....he said, ' today is 8th April...'...
8th april
alone
complaint
fall
issue
love
matter
policeman
separately
today
advice
live

Sudha - OK try to find out if in the neighborhood, your husband has kept another wife or not.
Bimla - no he is very shareef (innocent).
Sudha - is that so? Then if he is innocent then why does he live away from you?
argue
disagree
find
innocent
keep
neighborhood
polygamy
shareef
away
husband
wife

Bimla - the thing is he has his alcohol. That has ruined his mind.
Sudha - OK, OK...
Bimla - my husband is mine. He is not a dirty man.
Sudha - OK, he is not dirty.
destroy
dirty
expplain
landlady
man
mind
mine
ruin
alcohol
leave
reason

Bimla - yes...
Sudha - now the thing is, if he can go away from his wife, then he can also go away from the alcohol.
Chandrakala - that is the thing....(garble)

W - that is correct, you are absolutely right.
Sudha - huh?
W- that is correct, you are absolutely right. The alcohol is loved not the wife and the children.
agree
beautician
children
correct
forget
hate
important
love
owner
parlor
polygamy
right

Sudha - either, they get another wife, and starts hating the first one or they forget the wife and children. Then there is the one who loves the alcohol and the one who leaves alcohol...

Bimla - see Didi(sister) he is not even someone who fights a lot. Neither is he a gambler, or a thief. There is nothing but the alcohol that is bad about him. He drinks and irritates me. He throws me out of the house, asks me why I have not given him the papers of the house, why did you not do that...? there is nothing else wrong with him. He is very nice. Only he is not earning. And he drinks.
alcoholic
demand
didi
document
fight
gamble
gambler
house
irritate
justify
lot
nice
out
paper
sister
thief
throw
work
wrong
chef
cook
drink
earn
jobless
unemployed
woman
working

Sudha - he doesn't earn? Then how does he drink?
Bimla - well he drives cars and whatever he earns from that, 200-250, he spends it all in alcohol.
car
drive
driver
inquire
rupees
spend
vehicle
waste
housemaid
money

Sudha - so when he comes to the house, you should snatch it all away.
Bimla - huh? How can I snatch it away from him?
Sudha - then?!
abuse
avoid
away
beat
come
hit
horrify
house
job
livelihood
pocket
refuse
remember
snatch
suggest
surprise
advice
husband

Bimla - he remembers everything - how much money he has in his pocket. I don't want to get beaten up. After all I'm also earning. I don't do such things.

Bimla - I wont do that...
Sudha - OK, then if you cant do that, then there are medicines available that help to quit alcohol. Give them to him, he will be cured, he will leave alcohol.
accuse
alcohol
available
breathe
buy
change
color
copper
cure
didi
finish
flap
food
frantic
hand
help
hot
jug
kadai
leave
man
medicine
mix
offer
pan
quit
red
sister
tablet
tamba
try
water
work
alcoholic

Bimla - Oh I have tried that!
Sudha- really?
Bimla - I have done that. I bought this medicine from (?). So when I finished cooking, and he came I asked him, 'why did you eat and come, I could have made the food hot for you.', but he said, 'what? you will make it hot?'. So I put the medicine into the kadai (pan), but the tablet did not get mixed.

Bimla - So I took deep breath and put the tablet into his jug of water. The jug was made of tamba (copper). So he had the alcohol, but after that, Didi(sister), I'm telling you, he turned completely red and started frantically flapping his hands, and said, 'Bimla, you gave me something!'

Bimla - I said, 'I did not give you anything!'. But from within myself, I was thinking, if at all anything happens to Tarun's father, the police will make me wear prison clothes and make me walk all over Khirkee and will tell everyone, that this ?....? has killed her husband because he was an alcoholic.
avoid
clothes
deny
disgrace
father
fear
guilt
khirkee
kill
police
prison
thought
village
walk
within

Bimla - I had a bath and I then recited the Gayatri Mantra many times. I asked God to let this night pass.
bath
gayatri mantra
night
pass
recite
god
pray
time

Bimla - I told God, I will never give him anything.
Sudha - Oh my God!
Bimla - he met me in the morning. I asked him, 'Tarun's father, how are you feeling today?'. He said it was better, but till today nothing like what happened today, has happened. So I told him, ' then from now on, don't drink, for may be someone must have mixed something in it'. So he tells me, 'who knows, maybe you mixed something in it!'
accuse
advice
better
drink
father
feel
forgiveness
inquire
mix
morning
promise
tell
today
working woman
alcohol
housemaid

Bimla - that is why I will never give him that medicine.
Sudha - OK.
Bimla - who knows, if anything happens I will have a kalank (taint) on my name
Sudha - Oh, the person who gives the medicine will be blamed not you. Besides they never give poison, they give the right medicine to help quit alcohol.
avoid
blame
correct
fear
guilt
help
kalank
name
poison
quit
refuse
responsible
taint
medicine
woman
working

Bimla - no, people die with that too. He became mad...
Sudha - oh, in that ?Bheed? Bazaar in Savitri Nagar, you will get the real medicine....
Bimla - oh, if he goes mad I will have to take care of him. I will not be...
bazaar
care
crazy
cure
die
inquire
mad
original
people
purpose
real
unable
alcoholic
landlady

Sudha - Oh! One can't go mad by having medicines that cure alcoholics.
Chandrakala- ask her why did she not give her own husband that medicine.
Sudha - I did not give him on purpose.
Chandrakala - then why are you telling her....
Sudha - no, I did not give him on purpose.

Bimla - now wherever he might be, on my forehead there still shines the bindi of his name.
Sudha - huh?
Bimla - now wherever he might be, on my forehead there still shines the bindi of his name. If I had given him that medicine for alcoholics......
bindi
forehead
name
relief
shine
symbol
working woman
bride
widow

Bimla - If I give him that medicine for alcoholics, and something happens to him....now he might be anywhere in this world, or in ?.....? at least, I am still a married woman suhaagin (a bride). OK?
fear
justify
suhaagin
working
married
woman

Sudha - it is a good thing that you are a married woman. But then, one cant just quit alcohol, without doing anything, he will not quit drinking the alcohol. It cant happen. Never.
good
try
alcohol
drink
housemaid
quit

Bimla - He will not quit?
Sudha - no.
lady in green sari- hello?
Sudha - he will never leave it. Never leave.
lady in green sari - hello!
Sudha -yes, speak please.
lady in green sari - it is me talking...
Sudha - yes, speak....
lady in green sari - this is ?Kamlesh? speaking...
Sudha - yes, speak...

chef
cook
hallucination
introduction
irritate
leave
man
mother
name
neighbor
result
speak
wife
working
agree
excuse
lady
sari

Lady in green sari - see, alcohol is just an excuse. It does not result in hallucination. If it did, then why doesn't a man call his mother his wife?
Sudha - yes.

lady in green sari - he can do that, right, if alcohol resulted in hallucination?
Sudha - yes, yes...
lady in green sari - so why does a only irritate his wife after drinking?

Sudha - no, a man is a ?....? if he says that alcohol...
lady in green sari- alcohol is just an excuse. And by having a medicine that helps quit alcohol, no one can die.
Sudha - no.
lady in green sari - vomiting is the only effect not death.
Sudha - no. no one can die with it.
barf
effect
vomit
die
medicine

Sudha - no one can die with it.
lady in green sari - that is just the imagination of people. If any one does die it would be his own fault, and not because of those medicines.
Sudha - no he cannot die.
lady in green sari - because I have helped a lot of people to quit. My husband does not drink I am very happy with my life because my husband does not drink alcohol.
chef
cook
death
drink
experience
fault
husband
imagination
life
witness
woman
working
happy
help
people

Sudha - Oh, a lot of people have quit alcohol in this way! A lot of people, because of that medicine, have quit alcohol.
lady in green sari - it has been five years since I helped my brother quit. Of my uncle's son. And for five years now he has been very happy among his children
brother
children
justify
lot
son
time
uncle
year

Sudha - definitely...
Bimla - Oh behenji(sister), make us happy too. We stay right next to you.
Sudha - form when.....
lady in green sari - but if you are so scared to give a little bit of the medicine....
Sudha - when you are so scared to give the medicine, then how will he quit alcohol!
Bimla - you see, that one time something like that happened with me...
afraid
agree
behen
chef
churan
contain
cook
experience
fear
little
live
neighbor
packet
possible
powder
scared
sister
small
stay
tablet
woman
working
wrong
effect
vomit

lady in green sari - no no! Nothing happens.
Sudha - nothing happen...we are telling you...
lady in green sari - the person only vomits, nothing else happens.
Sudha - yes...
lady in green sari - and the medicine is not in the form of a tablet, that is wrong. It come in a small packet of powder, a churan(powder)..
Sudha - yes!
lady in green sari - it does not contain anything else.

Sudha - someone must have cheated you and taken the money.
lady in green sari - because a person cannot die with it. It does result in barfing, but not death.
Sudha - yes.
addiction
barf
beedi
cheat
cigarette
death
die
justify
life
money
nice
result
tobacco
husband
man

lady in green sari - but I'm very happy with my life. My husband is a nice man...
Sudha - OK....
lady in green sari - he has no form of addiction. No beedi, no cigarette, no tobacco....
Sudha - nothing....
lady in green sari - I'm very happy.
Sudha - you are very happy?

lady in green sari- well I don't know about my children in the future, but I'm very happy with my man.
children
future
unsure

Bimla - Oh, I'm also happy, so what if my husband is not around.
lady in green sari - no, see you have to try and change your man.
absent
advice
alcohol
alcoholic
bride
change
chef
cook
drink
marriage
medicine
name
quit
settle
try
working
woman

Why is he not around? You still have his name! Give him that medicine for alcoholics and make him quit it!

lady in green sari - there is nothing...nothing is greater than a woman. If a woman wishes then she can do anything.
able
great
important
wish
lady
sari

lady in green sari - if sometimes, your children are creating a chaos, then you can tell them....
Sudha - Oh, if you don't do something like that then the children will also learn the same thing.
lady in green sari - no no, nothing like that happens.
chaos
create
deny
habit
havoc
children
housemaid
learn
same

Sudha - the children will also learn the same thing and will tell you that if our Papa can do that, then so can we.
Bimla - no no, that cannot happen.
Sudha - how can it not happen?
lady in green sari - no, it does affect the children. It makes a big difference.
Sudha - how can it not make a difference?! It completely affects the children.
able
action
affect
chef
cook
difference
justify
woman
working
father
influence
papa

Sudha - the children pick up what their Mummy and Papa do. There is no doubt in that.
definite
doubt
mother
mummy
pick
sure

lady in green sari - we do see, there are children who smoke beedi, cigarettes....
Sudha - they even drink alcohol....
lady in green sari - ...they even chew tobacco, drink alcohol.
Sudha - what not!
lady in green sari - we see the children in the village, we see our own children.
Sudha - Oh, children of the age 8 and 10 drink alcohol in the fort.
age
alcohol
area
beedi
chew
cigarette
drink
fort
habit
lady
place
sari
smoke
tobacco
village
young
youth

Seema - OK, hello Sudha?
Sudha - yes?
Seema - Sudha, you voice is a bit too loud. Please speak a bit softly.
Sudha - that is how my voice is.
Seema - a bit softer, a bit softer....OK?
daughter-in-law
little
loud
shrill
soft
request
voice

Shaina - Sudha, don't speak softly, just keep the microphone a bit away... like this...
Seema - yes...her voice is piercing the ear...
away
ear
far
mic
microphone
pierce
softly
speak

Seema - OK, how long will this program go on? Erm.. what is your name?
Sudha - now let us go. I want to go eat roti, (bread). I'm hungry. I have just come back from work!
bread
eat
hunger
hungry
inquire
job
livelihood
long
name
program
return
roti
work
daughter-in-law
time

Seema - yes...errr
Shaina - OK, will will end this in five, ten minutes. But, though I couldn't properly listen to you all as I was running up and down to check when there are problems in connections here and there. But I can see that when a lot of ladies get together, talk to each other, they borrow each others will power. I can see it go from here, to there...it went here, there, this way and that way...
borrow
connection
everywhere
hear
lady
listen
minute
people
place
power
problem
proper
run
talk
together

Shaina - so this is a very good thing. But once the camera is shut off, and once we all go home to our husbands and joint families, then what?
camera
close
family
good
home
husband
inquire
joint-family
off
shut

Shaina - in our view, we have encouraged everyone, we now even have a bit of zeal. But again, after two days, your lives will go back to being normal. So that courage, the strength to be fearless that has grown within ourselves, will help us to give support to each other. So please continue that.
continue
courage
encourage
fear
fearless
grow
life
normal
self
strength
time
view
within
zeal
day
request
support

Shaina - so like Seema was telling me yesterday, that may be we could start something by doing this (program). So when tomorrow, you meet each other on the streets or in the lanes, then look at the other in the eye and please support each other, yes?
Sudha - OK..
begin
daughter-in-law
eye
lane
look
program
start
street
tell
tomorrow
yesterday
housemaid
meet

Shaina - so now, you go ahead and talk for five, ten minutes. Say anything you want. Sing together, if you want to.
Sudha - what to sing a song for? Are we making a film here?
Shaina - yes! Then what else! And this lady who is getting waxing done for herself, I forgot her name, what was her name?
Renu - Anita ji...
Shaina - yes...Anita ji, we are all happy to meet you as well. Do you stay in Khirkee?
beautician
film
forget
forgot
happy
inquire
khirkee
lady
make
minute
name
permission
sing
song
speak
talk
together
village
waxing
artist
customer
parlor

Anita - no I stay in Alaknanda.
Shaina - OK...
Anita - it is a coincidence that I happened to be here.
Shaina- Then you please came again to Shyama Beauty Parlor and meet them all.
Anita - if they all do something good, then I will definitely come back.
back
beauty
coincidence
deny
good
invite
request
return
sure
come

Shaina - come now....
Sudha - come now, call your lovers.
call
joke
lover
housemaid

Anita - I will see you people again. Some day. We will meet again.
Sudha - we will definitely meet. Auntie ji I know you also, but I have just not seen where you live. When I go that side I will see you properly.
area
auntie
beautician
day
future
girl
know
live
meet
people
recognize
see
together
understand
artist
customer
landlady
parlor
sing
song

Anita - understood...understood...
Renu - let us sing a song together...
Girl - sing a song.
Chandrakala - we know songs as well....

Indu - yes sing...you sing....
Chandrakala - she will sing...
Manju - what type of a song do you want?
Chandrakala - she is asking what type you want....
Indu - what kind of song you want? A Bhajan (prayer song)or what?
agree
bhajan
booth
daughter-in-law
inquire
love
manager
phone
prayer
request
type
encourage

Shaina - any type, but please don't sing a Bhajan (prayer song), please....after all this discussion if we sing a Bhajan (prayer song)
Anita - sing some love songs...
Shaina - Ah! Sing love songs! Absolutely!

Shaina - come! If no one wants to sing, then as we will be shutting this in ten minutes, if someone wants to say anything. But it will b fun if we all sing a song....some feminist song...we could sing a song for women. If anyone knows any song we will all join in.
Chandrakala - OK, sing...
close
come
end
enjoy
entertaining
feminist
fun
join
minute
off
say
shut
talk
time
want
woman

Shaina - or any love song as Anita said...
Chandrakala - yes..Bimla..?
Anita - we want a love song!
Shaina - Love Song! Start!
Chandrakala - hello? Bimla?!
artist
begin
chef
cook
customer
love
parlor
start
working
song

Yashomati maiya se bole nanda lala,
radha kyun gori, main kyun kala

(To Yashodha maa, asks young Krishna,
Why is Radha so fair, while I'm so black…)
color
fair
god
krishna
radha
yashodha
black
dark
film
group
hindi
mother
movie
together

Boli muskaati maiya, lalan ko bataya
kaali andhiyari andhi raat mein tu aaya...

(Smiling, mother told her darling,
A black, dark night full of gale,
you arrived..)
arrive
gale
night
smile
darling

Laadla kanhaiya mera ho,
laadla kanhaiya mera kaali kamli wala
isi liye kaala

(Darling Kanhaiya, you are the one with a black lotus,
that is why you are black,)
flower
kanhaiya
lotus
krishna

Boli muskaati maiya sun mere pyaare

(Smiling, mother says, listen dear)
cast
dear
eye
girl
kohl
laden
listen
magic
smile
spell
fair
mother
radha

gori gori raadhika ke nain kajaraare

(Fair Radha has dark Kohl laden eyes)

kaale nainon waali nain aisa jaadu daala,
issi liye kaala

(The black-eyed girl has cast such a magical spell
That is why you are black)

Yashomati maiya se bole nanda lala,
radha kyun gori, main kyun kala

(To Yashodha maa, asks young Krishna,
Why is Radha so fair, while I'm so black…)
color
god
hindi
sing
song
yashodha

Boli muskaraati maiya sun mere pyaare,
gori gori raadhika ke nain kajarare

(Smiling, mother says, listen dear
Fair Radha has dark kohl laden eyes)
cast
dear
eye
kohl
laden
listen
magic
smile
spell
girl

(garble)...
Chandrakala - forgot...
Girl - mummy, wait, wait. Let us see what song they are singing.
Chandrakala - we lost track...
Girl - Auntie, sing....
Renu - who is saying that?
auntie
forget
landlady
lost
mummy
see
track
wait
beautician
parlor
sing
song

Renu - Surabhi? Is Surabhi going to sing a song?
Boy - this....my sister will sing!

We shall overcome , We shall overcome,
some day!
Oh, deep in my heart, I do believe
we shall overcome some day
boy
day
group
inquire
sister
sure
woman
belief
deep
heart
hope
overcome
together

forget
lose
track
We shall overcome , We shall overcome, ....

.... Oh, deep in my heart, I do believe
we shall overcome some day

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